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How do you feel attraction

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  1. Justinian20

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    So let's chat about how our bodies and emotions react to seeing someone who is attractive, all genders are welcome to say how they feel sexual attraction to someone.

    So to clarify, how do any of you feel sexual attraction. Do you feel it deep in your body as an almost pleasurable sensation, or does your outside react quick enough.
     
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    I rarely feel overt sexual attraction. Instead I feel "spiritual connections" with random girls.
     
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    I'm not sure how to answer your question. But I tend to feel some "excitement" or a "spark" when I see someone who is attractive (bisexuality btw).
     
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    When i see someone i find attractive my body starts to sweat (for some reason it also does it on a cold day) and i get a certain feeling down south.
     
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    The feeling is almost like... anticipation. My throat tightens and my attention is riveted toward them. Sometimes there is a fluttery sensation in my body. Mostly my brain is just repeating the phrase "hot damn."
     
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    I rarely feel it at all. A lot of people mistake me for asexual, even though I'm not completely.

    For me, sexual attraction is emotional. I've never thought someone was "hot" and wanted to sleep with them, but if we get on great and have emotional compatibility, I can feel those tingles and sensations. It's just uncommon.
     
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    Sometimes it's sexual. Sometimes I look at women and get a little turned on, just a little. That's really, really rare though.
    Mostly, my experience of attraction is an experience of the heart. I get a...feeling in my chest. I don't know how to describe it. It's just really, really there.
    I get kind of giggly, and even if I was annoyed with them(like at work, customers annoy me a lot), I forget that I was annoyed, and smile at them a lot.
    I wish to speak with them more, be around them.
    I often get the desire to kiss them.
     
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    I just zone in on them. And my focus goes to them. A bit creepy when it's just a stranger walking by I guess.

    Oh well.
     
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    Butterflies in the stomach, dry mouth, sweaty palms, faster heart rate. Then again, I am socially anxious and feel those things regardless :lol:
     
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    Usually I feel really hot, my heart races, and my mind becomes foggy. Heaven help me if they actually talk to me then, cause I'll most likely be a mental mess.
     
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    I just look in the mirror!!1! I'm giddy as hell, I'm more outgoing, my heart rate increases, I feel like I'm overheating, I want to hug them until my arms hurt, I want to touch them all over, and I want to do crazy evil sexual things with them
     
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    I think attraction starts out for me as a subconscious awareness of someone and their many physical traits, as well as non-verbal body language. Then, a warmth comes over my chest as I learn more about them and their personality. The biggest thing is that if I have the opportunity to listen to them talk or speak for a time, and what I learn about them is extremely appealing, or favorable, or relatable to me, then my entire body tingles, I start to blush, and I start to feel a little drunk, as if I'm sinking down and my limbs go limp.

    This can all occur for fictional characters as well as real people.
     
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    Okay so now for me, I forgot to write how I feel attraction,

    It's very hard to properly describe, but guys I find physically attractive, my first look, my whole body almost goes weak, I usually glance at the person imagining myself holding their hand, touching their shoulder, lying with my head in their lap.

    My whole body then has a weird strange feeling of warmth that emanates from my heart, I usually want to put my hand over my heart and occasionally really want to moan and whimper as the warmth feels so pleasurable. It's almost like I'm on drugs as I feel my heart keep emanating this warmth and pleasurable feeling as I keep imagining holding them or just kissing them(sex can be imagined, at the point sex is imagined I think 3 times my heart has usually emanated it's warm pleasurable feeling.

    It also happens during fantasies as well.
     
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    That's it! That's exactly what happens. =)
     
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    I'm a very sexual person, I usually feel very strong emotions and become really impulsive when I feel really attracted to someone.

    It can be a problem sometimes. lol
     
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    I wrote out this whole thing and then lost it lol

    I am not very sexual.. so my initial feelings aren't truly sexual and more romantic I feel. Maybe it will change with time.

    Women: very strong draw, can't take my eyes off, glamoured by their looks, then I usually start having a desire to care for them and I do become jealous if they choose this bf or someone else over me. So definitely attraction.

    Men: I honestly hardly notice them, I only become attracted once I know them, but I never have a very strong attraction. There are very very few men that I am interested.

    I feel I have a preference for women. I consider myself bisexual. But, for all I know the more I express and explore my feelings I will end up realizing I am just homo. I definitely will never see myself as heterosexual.

    Obviously still exploring my sexuality even though it has been a 12 year self-reflection.
     
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    romantic attraction, so holding hands, hugging, etc is what that is
     
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    I for myself just know aesthetic attracion. Maybe I also would like to hug that person when I know them better, but mostly it's like looking at some pretty beautiful painting/iece of art.
     
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    I feel butterflies in my stomach, a tingly feeling throughout my body and I blush really badly.
     
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    this is hard to describe,
    it feels like we have a connection between us after i just heard their voice, or long eye contact,
    i feel like i want to have long conversations with them i feel really weak, it doesn't matter how they look it is how they think and i mostly get attracted to people who are attracted to me first... weird right:confused: