Hey So - When I first started questioning my sexuality in school, I identified as gay, mainly because I hadn't heard of the term bisexual. When I did, I found this term to be quite fitting and have used it more or less ever since. However, recently I've found myself almost not at all attracted to girls and only wanting to be with men. I tend to only watch gay porn, although Ive got off to a couple of straight videos too. I've been in 2 long term relationships with women but never in a relationship with a guy - so I don't know if it's just that I want what I've never had and what seems exciting, or I don't care as much for what I've had and what I know. Does that make any sense? When I've been with guys before, I've enjoyed it much more than with women, but I don't know if that's because I'm gay or whether its just those women who were shit. How do I know whether I'm gay or bi?
From the sounds of it, you seem pretty bi to me. I can relate to almost everything you have said (with the exception that I have only been in relationships with guys not girls). In my opinion, there is no real "test" to being gay or bi, simply what makes sense to you. You have been with both guys and girls and are sexually attracted to both so I think the label bi makes sense. Unless you feel you are trying to cover up some internal homophobia? But from what you are saying I doubt it
I know, but I didnt really enjoy those relationships and the sex always felt awkward. So I don't know if that means I'm gay. However, both those girls have gone on to beome lesbians, so I dont know if it was just that either?
I would disagree that you sound bi; what you are saying is you aren't really attracted to guys, mostly watch gay porn, and enjoy sex with guys. None of that sounds remotely like you have attraction to women. The relationships with women may well just have been what you were conditioned to "want". Of course, only you can know for sure... and perhaps you already do,
