I'm a gay male in my 30's and I'm still single. I came out in my late 20's and still haven't had a relationship that's lasted more than a month. One of my problems (IMO) is that my standards are ridiculously high (a la Lois and Brian Griffin's piano number in Family Guy). So my question to the forum is: how do I diversify my standards of who I find attractive vs. unattractive? I figure that if I was attracted to a wider range of guys, then I would be attached at this point. The guys I usually tend to be attracted to are White/Hispanic/Asian, around my age or younger, educated, nerdy, like outdoor activities, are not politically on either extreme and like dogs (or at least cats). I'm passionate about learning, helping others and seeing animals in their natural environments (ie- Ray Mears = soft core earth porn, lol =P). Physically, I'm attracted to average-to-fit builds; I'm tall and have a thin-average build myself. I don't find myself attracted to guys who are really into musicals, love shopping, talk about pop culture and would rather spend a gorgeous day indoors. I don't mind if a guy is more on the feminine side, but I find that most guys who are fem don't really share any of my core interests. I hope someone comes along who can prove that wrong. I don't discriminate on height, either. I've been on dates with guys who are 5'2" to 6'2". I think one of my other problems is that when I meet someone online and then meet them in person, I keep coming up with reasons why a relationship with that particular guy wouldn't work out. Unless that reason is really legit (ie- a huge character flaw or someone who's extremely dysfunctional), I need to work on not giving up so easily, and thinking about what imperfections and downsides I can live with vs those I can't. Lord knows I'm definitely not perfect, so I shouldn't hold others to such a high standard. Any advice would be appreciated. Please keep your comments respectful, even if you find my post disagreeable. I'm feeling pretty depressed right now, for a bunch of reasons.