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How do first-time bottoms learn the essentials?

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by Driftr, Jul 7, 2016.

  1. Driftr

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    So the other day I was wondering this because well, they don't teach gay sex in schools in a lot of places, porn doesn't teach you how to prep or the fact that you have to prep at all and there is a time-window appropriate for bottoming (although lots of porn promotes condom use at least).

    Not to mention, not all gays join online forums where they have these resources available

    So are first-time bottoms who fit the description above bound to have "accidents?" Or do some bottoms just usually figure it out?

    Can anyone tell me from experience too if they have any (I'm a top so I'm just wondering how it is for bottoms) Or if you're too shy that's okay lol
     
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    Why did u not ask the bottoms you had sex with? How did u figure out that you are a top? Why not to be versatile?
     
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    Google it at least that's what I did but remember your eye bleach
     
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    There is no prep if you are healthy in the bowels dude.
     
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    Oh lol. I just never thought to ask (although I have asked bottoms a few questions).

    It never dawned on me until recently just, you know, about how bottoms (especially ones with no anal sex ed or who don't frequent forums like this) learn these basics.

    Well, if you ask me, I figured I was a top (at least for now) after watching gay porn and I just liked all the power the top had in videos.
     
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    You can clean up before hand, most drug stores have enema kits, use the water based, not the oil based. This helps to sure make no accidents happen.
    If you have regular bowl movements. You should be fine
    As for how it feels your first time, it's probably going to hurt a little, but does get better.
    You might want to buy a toy and practice putting it in there, just so you get used to the feeling, also don't be shy about telling your partner you don't have a lot of experience bottoming, he'll go easier on you.
     
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