Those who were in the closet or in denial, how did you react when someone told/asked/"accused" you were gay? Were you angry or did you play it cool? Did you distance yourself from this person (sub)consciously?
I used to get really defensive, but then i would laugh about it and play it off then change the subject (less obvious)
When this first started I was terrible about flipping out. Gradually, I figured out how to laugh it off, be cool. I also got better at trying to control certain mannerisms that might lead one to wonder if I was gay.
People still do, my family especially make jokes all the time. I find it funny. I just laugh and pretend I’m straight
Well, I have this annoying habit to blush a little whenever something's awkward. So it wouldn´t surprise me if someone has already noticed.. however, I laugh or I affirm with the most obvious sarcasm I can afford.
This only happened to me in 7th grade. At first I probably over reacted, but I quickly learned how to be cool about it. I also learned to minimize a couple mannerisms that I had developed. In high school I was called gay a few times but at the time “gay” was a very popular catch all term for “lame” it wasn’t about my sexuality so I easily brushed off those “insults “. Early on I learned that people that overreact to being called gay and people that accuse others of being gay are most likely gay. Lisa Simpson taught me that last one.
Someone online who was very religious once asked me if I was gay because they saw me promoting gay rights. I didn't answer them. I'm still not 100% sure what my sexual orientation is and I didn't want to get into that with a homophobe. I wouldn't want them to try to convince me to be straight, I am what I am I just don't know what that is yet.
I've been called gay a few times which is annoying because it's usually down to having nail varnish on or long hair so they are just going on stereotypical notions. As for being Bi I'm quite open about it so that itself wouldn't bother me. That said although I'm trying to come across as more feminine I still get embarrassed if someone questions me about my gender but I'm trying to be more up front about it.
It only happened when I didn't care that much anymore if someone would think that or not but I just laughed it off and answered things like 'you got me' and made jokes about it
First time I remember was high school, when I really didn't know that I was gay (either didn't know, or had deep denial). A boy cornered me. He wanted to know if the story he'd heard was true that I was gay. I was frankly afraid--probably fear of getting assaulted. I didn't know him. I can't remember if I denied the allegation or not. But I do remember getting away from him, and trying to stay far away. More recently (last 15 years or so), I've had accusations from a conservative I know. I used denial. There was, again, fear, although not of physical assault so much as other potential problems.
It was a long time ago... but I think I used to get so defensive that I made it obvious in the process. One of those really close-minded areas so I was desperate to fit in back then. I don't really care if they do these days, so long as it doesen't drive them to violence.
When I was a girl still in high school, I would freak out and go on the defensive. I would then say a bunch of homophobic stuff. As time went on though, that response became less and less until I came out as a gay female. The same cycle happened with me being trans...lol. You would have thought that o had learned from the first round.
Before I even knew what I was feeling for girls, people started calling me a lesbian in middle school. I was 12 and didn’t understand that the way I felt about girls was not the same way my other female friends felt about girls. So I was just really confused and didn’t know why everyone thought I was gay. I just denied it, because I was sooo sure I was straight. I remember just feeling really insulted that everyone thought I was something so awful as a lesbian. I just felt embarrassed and confused.
I was never angry and I tried my best to laugh it off and play it cool. If it was the same person who kept making the comments to me I would start to avoid the person, because it was an uncomfortable conversation to keep having. I would feel anxious around them in case they brought it up.
