I keep questioning myself and I'd really like to hear how other people reached the conclusion they were nonbinary, or at least started to suspect it. Deep down, I know I am – I feel it in my soul. But at the same time I keep going back and forth on it. I see other nonbinary-identified AFAB people and they're often wayyy more dudely than I am, so I start feeling like maybe I'm "not genderqueer enough" and that maybe I'm appropriating something from a community I don't belong to? Which is crazy because I'd never think that of any other nonbinary person, only myself. (FTR, I know appearance /= identity, but the two are somewhat connected.) Also, maybe this sounds really weird but I feel like an effeminate man way more so than a masculine woman (though kind of a bit of both and neither). Any other AFABs feel like that?? If I look back even as far as my childhood, nearly all the celebrities or characters I've identified with have been effeminate/androgynous men. That's what I identify with. Some of my self-doubt is also related to societal norms. If roles were reversed and I was AMAB and dressed fairly feminine-but-not-completely-girly, it would be obvious that I was defying gender norms. But because it's more socially acceptable for women to wear masculine clothes, there's this assumption that I'm just a "tomboy". I'm not sure whether any of this is making any sense but I needed to get it out. I'd love to hear what other people's journeys have been like, especially if there's anyone who also struggles with feeling "not genderqueer enough".