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how did you feel when you realized you were not straight?

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  1. gbxx33

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    upset? happy? confused? relieved?
     
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    I remember being confused because I was trying to figure out why I found guys hot. Then once I understood the answer to that question, I got upset since I was raised extremely conservative, so I wanted to be straight.
     
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    I second what xeno said, except for me it was with girls. I'm from a very conservative family and live in a small town in the south, so I was super confused and tried for the longest to reject the feelings. But then when I finally came to terms with it and relied it wasn't a bad thing, I felt super relieved. Still haven't come out to anyone though, because of the whole strict family and small town thing. Everyone is all up in everyone's business as it is, and Im not quite ready to be the center of attention yet lol
     
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    Initially confused and freaked out.
     
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    Confused and looking for rational explanation.
     
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    I was still 13 but if I remember well it went like that:

    "Uh oh... Well, who cares ?" And I went on with my life afterwards. I even came out in middle school and to my parents. They probably think it was just a fad of mine.
     
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    My thought process went something like this: "WHAT lol no of course i'm straight pfft. I like guys, girls are ugly. ... mhm."

    I essentially just kept denying it for as long as possible, until the number of female crushes I had grew out of control, and it became almost impossible to deny. :/
     
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    Not much different. I think I kind of always knew. Guys were just too damn sexy to deny. :grin:
     
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    Mine was a little weird because, being raised a boy, people assumed I would like girls and I was like, "yeah, girls are the way to go for me". When I connected the dots of my gender, I suddenly realized that meant I was gay for girls like me. It felt pretty great.
     
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    Panicked for a little cos my family is catholic, but then I relaxed after a while.
     
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    Took it pretty naturally at first. I think I would be more panicked if that happened to me now because I realte that stuff to sjw/tumblr and I hate all of that. This generation having gay/not straight people as a trend actually helped. Pretty much all the famous guys I liked were gay xD
     
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    I am #8 I am infinite and my Sexuality is pan to prove my infinity. I love everyone for whom they are on the inside. I don't have a preference but whom ever or anyone who ever can tame this beast will tame the #8.
     
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    Confused....
     
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    I felt sort of intrigued initally. Like I was relishing the oppurtunity to explore lgbt stuff and "jokingly" lust over female celebrities. Then very confused because I realised it was completely real and I wasn't expecting it... since I also liked guys those little things I thought about girls throughout my life seemed irrelevant until some realisation point and so yeah, I wasn't expecting that revelation. But eventually I felt super liberated and confident, though a little bit perverted.
     
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    I felt the exact same as you as I believed my parents were homophobic until that was proven wrong when I came out, well anyway back to the point. I also wanted to be straight and I couldn't come to terms and I was trying to live a straight life. I even kissed girls trying to mask my homosexuality. When I finally came to terms with my sexuality I felt relieved and so happy.
     
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    I remember this very well (happened when I was 15...)
    So yeah I was in the elenth grade last year and my lab partner was this awesome guy... We became friends and I soon realized thst the feelings I have for him are'nt simply platonic. I went up to my best friend told him about him.
    I remember saying this to myself,
    "Woah, am I gay?" I was'nt confused at all.
    I knew I loved this guy. And I did'nt care a boot about anything else :wink:
     
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    I can't remember. It was not like a sudden realization "Wow, I'm gay".It was a gradual process, like I thought young bodybuilders were hot, and it just slowly escalated.
     
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    Not sure how or when it happened, but I realized I was pansexual after thinking about how I wouldn't mind dating anyone of a particular or orientation. I spent quite some time researching about genders and orientation and gradually became proud of being pan.
     
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    When I realized I was homosexual it was normal for me because I didn't even know about sexuality or phobia. When I realized I was bisexual I am worried that people would call me promiscuous/greedy/indecisive, but it's becoming more normal for me now.
     
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    I remember it going something like this when I had my first crush and it started to hit me:

    Brain: Damn that girl is cute, I wonder what it'd be like to kiss her?

    Me: Wait....what?!?! No, you can't be gay. You're just admiring her clothes.

    Brain: You're both in school uniform.

    Me: DETAILS! Ok, hair then.

    Brain: bitch please.

    Me: Oh sh:***:t, what does this mean?!?!

    Then I had a bit of a mental breakdown where I curled up into a ball in a toilet cubicle most of break time and spent a few years questioning things. That was fun. :eusa_doh: Guess it was nature's way of getting revenge on me for being homophobic back then. Serves me right. I'd love to go back in time and troll myself, that'd be fun. But then again I don't want to cause any paradoxes. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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