Hello All! I finally did it! Hooray! I’m so glad to have found Empty Closets! I’m 38, female, and questioning. I feel like I’m close to finally understanding who I am and what I want. A little more about me: I’m married to a man who is my best friend, super understanding and supportive, and we’re going to divorce so we can better support one another. I’m a mother of four amazing young people, and I’m questioning my sexuality. This is not the first time I’ve questioned. I really don’t think I’m the heterosexual person I’ve always thought myself to be, and I’m so hoping that Pride Month can be for me too.
Welcome! I'm married, female, and admitted that last few years I'm bisexual. I have a young adult son who lives at home and attends college. So, I can relate to some of what you must be going through. I hope you find what you need here.
Hi Prisma! Thanks for sharing a bit of your story with me. I’d love to hear more. Does your son know? If so, how did he receive it? I look forward to getting to know you.
Pearls1984.....Hello and a great big LGBTQIA+ welcome to Empty Closets! I can remember the first post that I made on EC. I was desperate for help and I got the help that night that I so needed. I hope that we can help you in the same way that I received help. The most important thing to remember about Empty Closets is that we do care about you! We're very glad that you found us here on EC and hope that we can answer questions, give you support and provide a place to vent (as long as it's not violent!) when that becomes necessary! *****There are 18 different sub-forums here that you can check out and join in the conversations or start your own thread/conversation. In particular you may want to check out the forum that is titled "Sexual Orientation”, there are people there who have dealt with some of the same kind of issues that could be challenging you. When you have made at least 10 posts on various threads you will be able to post messages on a member's Profile Page. Just click on a member's Avatar Picture and then click on "Profile Page" in the dialogue box that pops up. You'll then be on their Profile Page and there will be a box that says: "Write Something" When you have been on EC for a few weeks and have made at least 50 posts on various forums, you can apply for Full Membership. A Full Member can send Private Messages (PM) to other Full Members and share personal contact info. Right now you can only send a PM to a Staff Member as that is always possible. Here is a quote from the Full Membership information forum: *****To be eligible you must be a member of Empty Closets for a minimum of two weeks, and have a minimum of 50 posts. These posts must be across numerous forums (Fun & Games does not contribute to post count), and consistently posted across a minimum of two weeks. You wouldn't be eligible, for example, if you registered, had no activity for two weeks, and then returned to post 50 times on your 14th day of membership. *****Well, as I said, we're very glad you found us! If you have any questions at all, you can post a question on my Profile Page or send me a Private Message. .....David
He knows. He had some initial difficulty, but is fine and accepts it now. I look forward to getting to know you too.
Welcome to EC, @Pearls1984! I'm glad your divorce is amicable and that he's being so supportive as you work through who you are. It can be such a scary yet liberating time. I hope we of EC can help you figure things out to be a happier, more complete you.
Thank you! It's been great having him. We've been through so much together and we're looking forward to this next phase/new dynamic in our relationship.
Thank you! Thank you! It's a scary and exciting time as I start finally accepting who I am. I was telling him last night that it's not so much a discovery as it is acceptance. I'm glad to have him during this process. We've been through so much together and he really is my best friend. It's a crazy thing when you have to tell your spouse that they're pleasing to your eye, but that you're not sexually attracted to them. In the end, we both just want to be happy and understand that we have to change the dynamic of our relationship in order to achieve it. I look forward to getting to know you and hearing about your journey, as well. It's nice to not feel alone in this.
He's excited for me and for himself but there's some fear because he doesn't want to lose our friendship. It's a fear of mine as well. Letting each other go in this way just makes room for more joy and happiness, but it's still a scary thing. Does that make sense?
