long story short, i was in love with my best friend for five years. when i told my other friend, who was raised by a homophobic family, she swore that i was crazy for possibly thinking i loved a girl and tried to convince me that i was wrong. this eventually led to us not being friends anymore for a good two years, and we just recently got back in touch and we're on good terms EXCEPT...she still thinks i was never in love with my best friend and still thinks i have no idea what love is. despite the fact that being in love with my best friend nearly destroyed me, threw me into a huge depression because she would never love me back because she's straight, wanted more than anything in the world for her to be happy, pined over her for YEARS, etc etc etc. all of these issues were completely swept under the rug by my other friend and it fucking hurts to not be taken seriously by someone who's supposed to be your friend. my friend thinks i was just "confused" and "mistaking love for admiration." she even accused me of being jealous of my best friend and confusing that for love. what? then she went off on a big tangent about how "there are different types of love maybe you just felt one of those but i really just don't see how you were in love with her!" meanwhile this friend is constantly getting into shitty abusive relationships and thinks that because i'm a virgin i must have NO IDEA what it's like to "really" love someone. her definition of love is so fucking convoluted and harmful and cheap, she's NEVER taken me seriously for being a virgin and now she doesn't take me seriously for being queer. and it fucking pisses me off. because my love for my best friend was to this day the most intense, all-consuming feeling i have EVER felt for anyone in my entire life and to have that belittled and made fun of makes me see red. logically i know that as long as i understand the feelings i had for my best friend (who is to this day the ONLY person i've ever been in love with) then it shouldn't matter if someone else doesn't believe me. i don't have to prove myself to anyone. in my rational mind, i know that very well. but this is seriously annoying me because i KNOW the only reason she doesn't think i was in love with my friend is because we're both girls. the homophobia factor in this argument is what gets to me the most because i know that if my best friend had been a boy and i told my other friend that i was in love, she would have believed me in a heartbeat solely for the fact that it would have been a straight relationship, the only "acceptable" relationship in my friend's eyes. i don't know, i have this really bad habit of dwelling on stupid shit and this is one thing that keeps popping up and annoying me at random times and i'm not really sure how to cope with it. i'm so sick of not being taken seriously for being bisexual, i'm sick of being told that my feelings aren't valid, i'm sick of my straight friend thinking she understands everything there is to know about love (one time a few years ago she even told me that she just doesn't believe the two people of the same sex could EVER feel love for each other, and i still haven't gotten over that. she even said that unrequited love DOESN'T EXIST because "love only exists when the other person loves you back." what an enormous crock of shit.) any advice from anyone who's been in a similar situation? it would be hugely appreciated because i'm grinding my teeth at the moment from being so incredibly annoyed.