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Hitting me like a tsunami...

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by out2019, Sep 2, 2018.

  1. out2019

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    I realize I am gay....it feels so freeing just to type those words.. but I am so scared, I don't think I have the courage to admit it to myself...
     
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    Indeed! Though, coming here... Typing how you feel and comparing it to freedom. Are you not then admitting it to yourself? Even if maybe on a subconscious level?
     
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    YES! I was shocked how freeing it was just to type it !!:slight_smile:
     
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    I read some of your other thread. Do not fret and worry. The fear and exhilaration you are feeling now will dissipate. Just the acknowledgement is enough, for yourself. You don't need to be in any rush.

    Let your heart and mind take hold of your realization and truly grasp its meaning for none other but yourself! If we can't be who we are and true to ourselves what's the point? Life is so precious and short!

    I spent too many years in the closet and not having a voice! I refuse to allow it again. So, I'm happy you've finally found an answer to your confusion! ^_^
     
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    .... I don't know if i can do that, but right now,i can at least image for a few minutes being with a man.. i never was able do that before except masturbating.....
    I am starting to realize its so easy and natural to think of myself with a guy...not just sex.. but it's overwhelming!
    Thanks but I don't think I am that far along yet....
     
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    Like you acknowledging my homosexuality was both an exciting and terrifying experience. Having to admit you are someone different sexually takes some getting used to. However once past it, the feeling of exhilaration is so intense and liberating. I can now say unequivocally I love the gay me so much better than the old hetero version.
     
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    you just did
     
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    Going through this myself. For past 6 years or so I have felt I was BI. But as time passes I feel my desire and attraction to men is becoming stronger and stronger physically and emotionally.
     
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    Looks to me like you just did! Congratulations!! Just ride along with your feelings for as long as you need - there's no rush to do anything until you're ready.
     
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    Like Limiteded once I started to acknowledge my feelings the desire to be with a man both physically and emotionally was overwhelming. I knew that bi was not an option as I was became consumed with becoming the gay man I realized I always was.
     
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    I backed away for awhile, but now new feelings are emerging.
    I am afraid to 'officially' say I am gay though right now I feel like i have to, I am worried about going back and forth.
    The emotional and romantic part is what's really has me in awe.....
    Sex I might write off as a fetish, but allowing myself to explore my romantic feelings about men, it seems so effortless compared to when I tried to do it with women... it feels so natural
     
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    Right now I just have this beautiful feeling like a wave of acceptance is washing over me and I just want those old fears and denial to be cleansed away..
     
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    Well done, being honest with yourself is often the hardest bit. I tell some people I'm bi and others I'm gay. Still on the journey I suppose ...other times I shout out loud I'm gay and it feels good and the shame is passing.
    Before telling others ensure your comfortable with yourself.
    Rade
     
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