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Hi, just looking for some friends in the lgbtq community

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  1. Lesdar1

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    I just started to really realize that I am lesbian and I am ready to embrace it. I would love to talk to and meet others like me.
     
    #1 Lesdar1, Mar 3, 2020
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    Welcome to EC!!
     
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    Welcome to EC, fellow midwesterner! :wave: Glad to have you here. :slight_smile:
     
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    Welcome I’m here to talk anytime
     
    #4 Needhelp3, Mar 7, 2020
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    Welcome to EC. :slight_smile:

    I hope you find the support that you’re looking for.
     
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    Hi Lesdar1,

    I'm in the same boat as you. I want to make LGBT (especially lesbian) friends. I have a conservative family so I need to talk to people who have been in this situation.
     
    #6 mellissa, Mar 26, 2020
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    Hi, I am bisexual and am also looking for some friends in the community. How old are you?
     
    #7 Rosanna, Mar 28, 2020
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    Well I’m not Lesbian but gay and married.. and hate myself for it..

    I’m willing to listen and talk
     
    #8 Needhelp3, Apr 2, 2020
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    Welcome I’m new to this as well
     
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    I'm very sorry to hear that. Does your spouse know how you feel?
     
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    She does not. She has asked me if I’m gay because the sex is not the best.
     
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    Yikes. That is rough. Maybe you should tell her. This secret is clearly taking some type of toll on your sex life and possibly marriage. If a wife ask her husband if he's gay its because something is definitely lingering in the air. Do you have anyone to talk to about these issues other than those on EmptyClosets?
     
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    Hey, Rosanna! I'm so confused right now about my feelings. Can I ask how you realized you are bi?
     
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    I do not. But this is a start.

    Do you have a lot of people that you talk to?
     
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    I talk to anyone. I would like to talk to the community leaders on this chat, but feel too scared to do so. I'm a wimp, I know.
    If you want to talk, I'm here. Ever since Covid-19, I'm not going anywhere. How long have you and your wife been married? Do you have kids? If so how old are they? What do you think motivated you to marry her? Were you aware of your same-sex attractions before?
     
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    Crazy to tell a stranger the truth but feels good..I need to talk about it.

    Been together 20 plus years 2 kids.

    The same sex attraction is crazy to talk about never thought of being with the same sex.. A girlfriend of mine talked me into to it and well I liked it..
     
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    Do you feel that is starting to affect your relationship or is it just a part of you that you never discussed with your partner?
    P.S I'm assuming that when you say you've "been together for 20 years ,2 kids", you mean that you have a wife/girlfriend who doesn't know you're bi. Please correct me if I'm wrong.
     
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    Yes to both questions never discussed it.. Married she does not know.

    I feel guilty about it..
     
    #18 Needhelp3, Apr 7, 2020
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    Has your wife ever made homophobic comments that scare you from telling her? If your wife expresses support for LGBT people or LGBT rights then maybe she will be understanding that you're bi.

    Do you feel guilty for not telling her? Do you feel guilty that you are attracted to men? Or do you feel that your attraction to men is starting to dominate your sexual feelings and that maybe you want to be with a man more than your want to be with your wife?
     
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    My Wife has accused me of being homosexual because she thinks I’m not interested in sex with her.

    I feel guilty because I do like sex more with a man than a woman. but I’m more attracted to women..

    What a mess!
     
    #20 Needhelp3, Apr 8, 2020
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