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Hi from gay married guy in Oregon

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by Steganos, Apr 7, 2024.

  1. Steganos

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    A twist on the usual story. Nearing retirement, I came out to my wife, saying I was despairing that I'd never get to experience a fundamental part of myself. She said do what you need to do to preserve mental health. So our marriage is now open on my side - with some clear ground rules. Life is better. I'm attending a meetup group for guys who come to understand their sexuality later in life, and one of the guys there pointed me to Empty Closets.
     
  2. Chillton

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    Welcome to EC. That is awesome you were able to come to terms with your sexuality and have the courage to come out to your wife. I'm glad you have so many safe spaces.
     
  3. Jakebusman

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    Welcome to EC from a married Bi guy
     
  4. quebec

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    Steganos…..Hello and a big LGBTQIA+ welcome to Empty Closets! :old_smile: I can remember the first post that I made on EC. I was desperate for help and I got the help that night that I so needed. I hope that we can help you in the same way that I received help. The most important thing to remember about Empty Closets is that we do care about you! We're very glad that you found us here on EC and hope that we can answer questions, give you support and provide a place to vent (as long as it's not violent! :old_wink: ) when that becomes necessary! This is a safe community of loving, caring and very supportive people and we will do our best to help you blend into the community.

    *****There are 18 different sub-forums here that you can check out, join in the conversations or start your own thread/conversation. When I first joined Empty Closets I was in need of a lot of support and encouragement and I found it here…EC is a safe place. I hope that you'll find good things here too! Folks here will talk to you and share...you don't have to be afraid of asking questions...we're glad to have you! Empty Closets is all about making connections and giving LGBTQ folks a voice when they otherwise don't have one in their day-to-day lives. :old_cool:

    *****In particular you may want to check out the forum that is titled "Sexual Orientation”, there are people there who may have dealt with some of the same kind of issues that could be challenging you

    Some info on how to navigate EC: :old_confused:
    When you have made at least 10 posts on various threads you will be able to post messages on a member's Profile Page. Just click on a member's Avatar Picture and then click on "Profile Page" in the dialogue box that pops up. You'll then be on their Profile Page and there will be a box that says: "Write Something”. When you have been on EC for a few weeks and have made at least 50 posts on various forums, you can apply for Full Membership. Only A Full Member can send Private Messages (PM) and then only to other Full Members and share personal contact info. Right now you can only send a PM to a Staff Member as that is always possible. Here is a quote from the Full Membership information forum:

    *****To be eligible you must be a member of Empty Closets for a minimum of two weeks, and have a minimum of 50 posts. These posts must be across numerous forums (Fun & Games does not contribute to post count), and consistently posted across a minimum of two weeks. You wouldn't be eligible, for example, if you registered, had no activity for two weeks, and then returned to post 50 times on your 14th day of membership.

    *****Well, as I said, we're very glad you found us! :old_big_grin: If you have any questions at all, you can send me a Private Message as you can always send a staff member a Private Message.

    …..David :gay_pride_flag:
     
  5. Tanner2024

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    Hi I wonder if my wife is doing the same with me. I accidents left email open and she read my emails when I was emailing a guy about being curious. I posted a thread/blog on it some good replies would be helpful. I’m new as well
     
  6. Zipper46204

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    I understand. If I may ask, how old are you?