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Hello, questioning and have questions

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by Wumni, May 16, 2018.

  1. Wumni

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    Am just questioning, never been really open about stuff like this, so thought I would try and see if I could get answers and support here. How do u know for sure if you're gay? Is harder to know when u still like guys? Do u need to try with girls to know for sure? If ur bi is it just easier to chose to be with guys (exclusively ) bc of family and societal pressures? Should I just ignore these feeling bc I do like guys and am not forcing myself to be something am not?
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    Wumni.....Hello and welcome to empty closets. This is a great place with lot of good people and now there is one more! Hey...there is a forum here on empty closets called "Sexual Orientation". If you go there you'll find a lot of people who can help you out with your questions and concerns....give it a try! Glad that you have found us!
    .....David :gay_pride_flag:
     
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    thank you
     
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    Welcome. Many of us are going through the same things, and have the same questions
     
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    Hey. As an out bisexual I can tell you that you should definitely entertain these thoughts and feelings or else they will manifest into something negative if kept inside. Its so important to talk about these things. My suggestion is going to therapy, talking to a trusted friend or family member!
     
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    hey! I think that a good way to try and sort through your feelings about your orientation might be to look at your past and future. ask yourself questions like "when I was younger, who did I imagine myself with when I was older? were those feelings influenced by the people around me or did I really believe them?" and "who can I see myself dating or being with in the future? do I see myself growing older with a man or woman or just someone who loves me?" just remember that though it's super confusing now, stuff gets easier as time goes on and you have longer to think it over. try not to stress it too much!
     
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    such truth here!