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Having one partner your whole life?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by jenne, Jul 14, 2019.

  1. jenne

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    I wonder how many of you can do this? Would you feel like you're missing something out if you don't get involved with more than one person in your life?
    I could definitely do that and be very happy
    What about you?
     
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    I’d hope to find the right one, but yeah. That’s what I’d like if I could find the right person. We’ll see what life holds though.
     
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    I really don't think this would be much of a challenge for me. I don't end up liking many people at all, but when I do I'm all in.
     
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    That sounds like torture. I'd rather be single
     
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    One person total ever in my life? No. Definitely not. That would be very boring.

    One person to settle down with long-term after already experiencing a bunch of other people shorter-term? Sure I can do that.
     
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    It really depends what you want from life and relationships. I met my now husband back in 2004 when I was 28 and we've been together ever since. He wasn't my first boyfriend and I wasn't his, but we both reached a point where we wanted to settle down and have something more than a casual relationship, based solely around going out and having sex. We'd both done our share of that and had fun (and some heartache) along the way, but the time had come where we desired more stability in life and love.

    Would I have been ready to settle down with one person sooner? I thought so at the time, but with the benefit of hindsight, probably not.
     
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    Same.

    Right now I have a bf and one good friend. If I was working 8 hours a day, that would be all the interaction I need lol
     
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    As long as your in a happy and healthy relationship i don't see any problem with it. It is maybe becoming more rare however some people are lucky to have one person they end up with for the rest of their life.
     
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    I just married my first and only girlfriend. I have no desire for anyone else. I was never of the mindset that the first relationship I got into would be my one and only but that's just the way it's worked out for me.
     
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    I spent my twenties hoping someone special would come into my life. Then one day I woke up in my thirties and said "fuck this, I wanna get laid." If there is some kind of special soul mate out there for me, well, he won't have a problem with me being a bit of slag before I meet him.
     
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    Don't think it would work for me. But I know a few people who married their first and only and are in the happily ever after thing.
     
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    I think there are many people who are able to spend the rest of their romantic life with one person. I've been with my husband for over twenty years and the majority of my friends of my age are married and seem to take their marriage vows seriously. I think spending the entirety of one's romantic life with one person is a little different. I think there's a certain amount of perspective that one might lack. I don't think a lot of the people I know who are in successful long term relationships would think settling down with the first person you ever dated would be a good idea...
     
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    I would want to date around first but once I find the right woman I'd be loyal to her.
     
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    My current life. I've been in several relationships, but only sexually with my current girlfriend. It's been 8+ year now and so far, so good. I'm not her first sexual partner though, she has been with both males and females.
     
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    I feel I can do this on my side, but I don't know what about my partner. I really hope he can.
     
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    Yeah, unless any big character-altering events happen or something, I think I'll be with the guy I'm with for a long long time. Glad we're open though
     
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    The biggest obstacle to this is the fact that people change and circumstances change over time.
     
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    Another dream about kindergarten...
     
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    The only partner I have ever had is my wife. At some moment I just understood that this is it and I will never find a better person to spend my life with. We married shortly after (it cost us around $200). More than 15 years passed since then and our bond is only growing stronger. I am ridiculously lucky in that regard, she is someone I trust infinitely and with whom I could discuss my deepest feelings.
    However, it went to uncharted territory when I dropped my inside barriers and realized that I am not that straight. That's a challenge, but I believe we will be fine.
     
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    I don't think I have no control over that. I have yet to be in a relationship yet. But I know the chances are that my first SO probably won't be the perfect one for me.