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Gross and embarrassing question...

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by Kevin k, Mar 11, 2019.

  1. Kevin k

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    I really don't want to ask this, even to open minded people on the Internet, but my boyfriend thinks I should ask "my people on EC". Ok. Here it goes. If you are easily grossed out or judgemental, don't reply please. Ok, the topic is watersports. Yeah, I'm one of those wierd people that's into that. If you don't know what it is look it up before responding. My question is whether or not it's "safe" to practice in sexual acts and if there's a higher risk of std or sti in specific when doing watersports. Everything I read says it's fine, but not every article I read was wrote by people who actually know stuff about it. Sorry. Gross, I know. Thanks for the help anyway.
     
  2. Totesgaybrah

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    Not gross and it’s just as safe as anything else! I wouldn’t do it with just anyone but with someone you trust it’s totally fine!
     
  3. Chip

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    On the risk scale, it is pretty low, almost certainly lower than anal sex. The only piece I'd have mild concern about is not that you are engaging in watersports, but that you have such harsh judgment of yourself for wanting to do so.

    In other words... given that you are describing it expecting everyone to be disgusted and grossed out, then I have some concerns about how engaging in that behavior is affecting you, emotionally. If you genuinely enjoy it and your BF is also down with it, that's totally cool and there are no concerns. But I'd suggest you look at what you wrote above and think about where your motivation is coming from. If it's just having fun, then no problem at all. But if in some way you are experiencing it as a means of degrading or shaming yourself... then it's not so good, and might be something to discuss further.
     
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    I just say so bc everyone I know from school and such (don't know I'm into that) think it's really gross. I've never had a problem with it. I just figured alot of people do, so I didn't want to scare anyone away.
     
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    Haha I love that.

    It depends on scenarios, but for the most part is very safe so let your freak flag fly!

    Not sure how old you guys are, but make sure you both get fully vaccinated for Hep B. That will cover you for golden showers and rimming if you ever do it.

    As long as your partner is healthy (not sick, std free, etc) then there is totally safe. If you don't know the health of your partner, then avoid doing golden showers when you have a cut on your body or avoid urine going into your mouth/orifices.

    I've only done it once out of curiosity. Sadly didn't do anything for either of us, but it was fun to try.
     
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    wow I learn something new every day 0.0 well I don't see a problem with it and I think @smurf says it best
     
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    Both of us have never done anything else with anyone before, so no stds there... is hep b the one with multiple shots? Cause if that's the case, I have not gotten that one before 0.0 and I've rimmed him a few times before. He has been vaccinated I belive as it was a requirement of his parents. My mom already doesn't approve of my sexuality, so to confirm I'm doing sexual acts with the guy who's house I'm always at by asking for the vaccine, are 2nd to none. I'll probably just get a lecture and forbid from seeing him. Niether of us have stds, though, so can hep b really transfer?
     
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    The penny has just dropped ..as we say in the UK. I've just figured out what watersports is....I've watched it on porn sites. I might consider it who knows! On another note I have rimmed a guy and I actually really enjoyed it! I have had two of my three Hep B vaccines, so I should be ok! The third isn't till Summer.
     
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    It was a curiosity at one point and tried, but not my thing. I think everyone else covered the safety and Chip got the mental thing handled.

    But if you both are cool with it, then do your thing.
     
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    You guys are young so this might be tricky if neither of you guys drive, but even if you guys haven't been with anyone else you both should get tested for stds at least once a year now that you are sexually active.

    Why? One because it will teach you both how to be responsible for your health and this includes yearly std testing. This will get easier once you get older, but keep this in mind when you do.

    2) People cheat and shit happens. No one thinks it will happen to them, but its just good practice. Std's are easy to treat as long as you catch it early. In order to catch it early you have got to get tested.

    Hep B is not really an "std" in the sense that it can be transmitted in other ways like public bathrooms and the like. Most straight people won't even think about sex when you talk about the Hep B vaccines and a lot of high schools in the US demand it from their students.

    That being said, once you get older make sure you take care of this. This is not an optional thing for you.

    Correct. You are in the clear for now, but please take care of your health and get the Hep b vaccine when you get older.
     
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    Might as well get the combo Hep A & B shot:
    According to the American Sexual Health Association “Hepatitis A is transmitted primarily through oral contact with feces (oral-fecal contact). This includes contaminated food or water sources and sexual contact, especially oral-anal sex.”
     
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    The risk is mainly going to depend on whether the urine enters any orifices or comes in contact with mucous membranes. STIs can be transmitted via urine I would assume because when you go for a full STI check, one of the routine tests involves giving a urine sample.
     
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    I guess I should add, I believe certain STIs can reside in the urethra and contaminate the urine, rather than the urine itself containing STI, but if your sexually active via oral or anal without protection, you’re already in contact with the urethra.
     
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    The urine test is usually for Chlamydia.
     
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    And, I think but am not certain, gonorrhea.
     
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    I just wanted to add- not gross! Your friends may say it is but people get all high and mighty and kinkshamy when they’re in public but you should see the dirty laundry in their own closet