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Goals and Dreams - what are yours

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by findingjoy, May 19, 2017.

  1. findingjoy

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    Goals:

    I want to be fully out by the end of this summer.
    This is weird, I know I can just press a 'nuke' button on facebook and via email announcing that I am gay, but I feel I need to do this incrementally and symbolically.

    I want to live a more authentic gay lifestyle:
    that means being a little bit for feminine and stopping some of my lingering hetero habits. I want to do thinks where I am meeting more LGBT people and less hetero activities. So if I go on vacation it will be in a place popular with gays.

    I want to date regularly until I find a boyfriend.



    Dreams
    1. I want to wake up snuggling with my boyfriend.
    2. I want to be there when my boyfriend comes home after a long day, hug him, look into his eyes and say "I love you".
    3. I dream about an at home 'date night' when I do something romantic and sensual for him, playing dress up or satisfying one of his fantasies, or even just looking at him "down there" and licking my lips with a sensual smile...


    last year at this time I was fighting being gay now I am so motivated to move forward. It's been a long journey but it feels so good to have something to move forward to.

    what are yours?
     
  2. looking for me

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    goals,
    to transition, already started

    to be out about my gender, in time

    to actually go on a date, asked a guy out last week and got turned down, then sort of friend zoned.

    dreams,

    to have a boyfriend to cuddle and have beautiful sex with.

    someone to support and who supports me

    to be at peace with everything.
     
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    Goals

    Start going out
    Start exercising
    Join some groups/teams
    Start dating

    dreams

    Be a better version of me (confident and sociable)
    Have a lovely lady to wake up with and share my life with
    Be a famous author
     
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    findingjoy,
    Would you believe your goals/dreams match mine exactly?! I couldn't have written that better myself, especially the "dreams" portion.
    I'm forever amazed at how we all want such similar things.
    It's all about love and acceptance, really, that's happiness in life.
    Great post. Keep writing! ♥♥♥
     
  5. dreamingfreely

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    My current goals are to just be myself and be happy with it. Keep working on positive things in my life and not dwell on negative things too much. Also I want to be happy in the moment and appreciate when things are good and not always immediately look to the future.
     
  6. findingjoy

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    I love your posts as well! So much I hijacked one of your threads :slight_smile:
     
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    These are great goals. What is your plan for achieving them :slight_smile:
     
  8. grass

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    goals--get a full scholarship to college
    be out to my family
    have a poodle as an adult
    rent out a house

    dreams--
    move to alaska
     
  9. jdulin

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    Goals:
    - To move abroad and go to college
    - To understand who am I

    Dreams:
    - To stop questioning my sexuality :slight_smile:
    - To live a happy life

    Wish you all good luck :wink:
     
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    findingjoy,

    you may hijack my threads anytime! ♥
     
  11. findingjoy

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    Well, i came out to someone last night :slight_smile: it is a gay guy I know, not that well, but he was pretty understanding. it felt good though.. coming out is little thrilling and after it feels so relieving....

    I have just started the conversation with an old girlfriend who i get along with....
     
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    I just had another wonderful thought and goal.. I live in a very gay friendly city - New York City,
    my goal this summer is to go on picnic date in central park :slight_smile: