Getting through that final stage of coming out...

Good question. I hit the same place you're at this past week. Parents, kids, ex- wife, all close friends, and every organization that I or my kids are a part of know I'm gay. So what's next?

Well, I have a date this weekend. I'm taking him to a place that I've gone to for years with friends, my kids. Will it be obvious? IDK and I don't care! Its ok.

I've still got a few sensitive areas of my life (well, my kids lives), that I want to hold off broadcasting the news until mid-June. Though this past week I was at a meeting of LGBT organizations and am on news video... so it all depends who sees and what conclusions they might make.

Not exactly waved the flag on Facebook, though I'm liking and sharing things about marriage equality, etc. But soon...

For me being out is about no secrets. That's not exactly the same as standing on the roof tops shouting I'm gay. I don't do that with my faith, politics, etc. either. (maybe I should?!?).

So if someone asks, I'll tell. I won't use strange pronouns to describe my dates or what kind
of man I want to be with.

I have a friend who just came out, and a friend of his got him a subscription to OUT magazine -- his friend said at least the mailman will know ;-)

Good thread -- other ideas folks?

 

I think it is over when you tell every one you care about... It is impossible to tell everyone, and I think it is like if you were warning them about your sexuality, as if they could chose to stay your friend or not... This news spread like a plague, so if someone asks you tell that you are out of the closet, or tell a good co-worker, and that's it...

That is just what I would do. I am trying to get out yet, and confessing yourself to everyone fells exhausting. Hope you figure it out, and please say what you did so when it is my turn i will do the right thing

 

If everyone important in your life knows, it's pretty much over. It's really easy to just correct people if they say or ask things, about girls or girlfriends and stuff. Like if someone remarked on how cute a guy was, you could jump in with your opinion. Or even if you just see someone who's really attractive, and you want to point him out, you could, if your friends or acquaintances are like that as well (if they point out attractive people as well).

It really isn't a big deal at this point. You've gone over the most important milestones, so to speak. I'd compare this to being in a math class, and having trouble with grade 12 level calculus. Once you overcome those difficulties, you won't have troubles with those anything thrown at you in the class anymore. Hopefully I've explained myself well enough.