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Getting older

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Black78, Jan 27, 2020.

  1. Black78

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    .... and still single. Anyone in their 40’s feeling miserably single as I do?
     
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    I am with you. Been single a long time man. But I’m optimistic that I will meet him. Till then I have the hope.
     
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    Don't get caught up in what I call the Venus and Apollo complex. It is not being fair to you to see yourself as a statuesque Greek god or goddess. Western culture places a premium on youth and beauty. Do not compare your self to others lest you become vain or bitter for there will always greater or lesser people than yourself. The sun rises and sets as it is natural to do. It is a sad thing to say that older people are seen as commodities to be trashed away when seen as used merchandise. It is futile to panic to that which is inevitable for you cannot be 25 forever. At 77 years old I am perhaps the "oldest" guy on EC. I do not fear death for I affirm life and you should too.
     
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    In the Book Brave World old people were euthanized and were cremated. Their ashes served as fertilizer for growing vegetables. If you are poor you will share a similar fate except your ashes will be thrown into the sea and you never be remembered not even used as potash!
     
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    Sometimes it feels like just waiting..no one is coming, will we ever know when the right person comes along and I’m glad you are optimistic.
     
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    Now I will definitely have nightmares
     
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    Yes...questioning at this age is not helping. But hey, I feel like being single and spending time alone has helped me to get to know myself and what I want better. I like to think that when someone comes along, I'll be in a better place to be in a relationship. Stay hopeful. Like someone else said... you never know when you'll meet your person :slight_smile:
     
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    I think so, I also think it happens when you least expect it to.
     
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    Yup... Down here in Cape Town... single... feeling it more now that I am 40... been 5 years... but... I tend to distract myself with work and studies so I don't have to feel...probably not the best course of action :frowning2:
     
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    I definitely submerge myself in work also. I don’t know that it’s bad, but I am sure being antisocial which I tend to be even when not submerged in work, is counter productive to finding someone.
     
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    Have to agree that being single is not always such a good thing. However, on the other side of the coin, being single is not such a bad thing either. Now do not get me wrong, I am not one of those happy, happy, joy, joy people that come off so phony. What I am is someone that learned to get out among people and to contribute to whatever group I was in. Was it easy to do, nope not by a long shot, am I glad I did it, yep I sure am. Just get out there and maybe something interesting will happen.
     
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    I recommend that you get Brave New World by Aldous Huxley. It was written many years ago, but is relevant today. Also get 1984 by Orwell. It speaks about how warfare is used to run the economy and how censorship is by the Ministry of Truth filters out anything that it fears will upset the dystopia it tries to maintain.
     
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    I recommend that you get Brave New World by Aldous Huxley. It was written many years ago, but is re
     
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    Oh I agree... I also feel antisocial and almost never go out... I feel awkward in company too which doesn't help. Plus my anxiety tends to reach volcanic levels...
     
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