Have you ever questioned the legitimacy of your gender identity? Just to clarify, I mean this internally. I believe though I'm biologically male, I consider myself genderfluid. Now, I wear masculine clothes to work, as it's a uniform, but outside work I'll wear different articles of women's clothing. Usually in public it's short shorts, leggings, or low cut tops. At home things get more into lingerie. My wife loves it, I like it, and I feel sexy. My question is does this make me genderfluid? Or is it some kink? I believe I am genderfluid, but I wanted your input. Which leads back to my opening question. Thank you
It can be all of the things you mentioned. It can be related to gender, but also sexuality. There is nothing wrong with that and if your wife and you also both love it, then it's a good thing. Do what makes you happy. The "is it just a kink?" question is really common and it really can cause a lot of confusion. Some see it as a very sexual thing, but others simply wish to express themselves and it comes down to how you feel like it is. Do you feel like wearing lingerie helps you to be more like you or do you get a sexual kick out of it, because your wife also loves it and it makes you both feel good? What happens, if you experiment and just don't wear women's clothing for a while? How it makes you feel? Maybe also you can keep a journal about your feelings and it helps to get a clearer picture. Only you can figure that out. I myself see no gender on piece of clothing, it's just something that helps you express yourself.
Thank you for your input. You've given me things to think about and made me see that sexuality isn't as cut and dry as I thought. I always figured it was like how being hetero or cis gender seems to be; you act this way and this way only and anything else is queer, wrong, "gay," etc. Didn't realize how personal the other identities and sexualities were. Thanks again.
It can be altogether in the mix Nothing wrong with that. I suppose the more you try it, the more you will have a clearer understanding
Boom, you've answered your question. Feeling sexy in something doesn't need to be entirely separate and exclusive to something that matches yourself wholly. That can often be simply a piece of the whole puzzle!
