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Gender Expression That Doesn't Involve Appearance?

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by annag423, Aug 10, 2017.

  1. annag423

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    So I've been playing around with my hairstyle and whatnot for a few months now, trying to better present as who I am, and I guess I'm at the point where I'm wondering what else do you do that expresses who you are as your preferred gender? This expression can either be for others or just for yourself. And I'm not trying to stereotype activities as more suited to a specific gender. I'm just curious as to what you do to feel more like your preferred gender but which doesn't involve your appearance.
     
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    Aside from stereotypes, I am drawing a blank... Because I dislike all sports, I don't drink beer and I don't cat call pretty women.

    I suppose I hold the door for people, offer to help someone fix things or help move furniture. Which I suppose are generally things associated with male gender, or just being a decent human.

    Some of my personality traits are stereotypical; I do tend to talk in short, to the point sentences, I don't generally sugar coat things... I am pretty forward and gruff.
     
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    Well, i think i am bigender and what i want to do is this. I want a hairstyle that feels more like me - be it a shorter, andro haircut or just a shoulder length bob type cut idk. I want to buy a binder and go shopping for boys clothes and buy a door mirror so i can look at myself in the mirror and see what i think. I have yet to try that. Another thing is I've been more lax about what i say, granted i'd love to be completely open. I hold open doors a lot. I tend to be anxious but when i'm not anxious i can be blunt and to the point. All of this is natural, but my being anxious and/or insecure would always hide it for a long time. But i've been in a better place lately, so now all of this can come out to the surface. So i guess my advice is to just go with what draws you in, go with what feels natural or is something you want to try.
     
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    I hold doors and tried unsuccessfully to help my father lifting up a big tv (LOL). I sometimes try to hold a nonchalant poise, but clumsiness trips me. I make little "gentleman" gestures.
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    An idea, in the other-ish direction, could be acting with a subtle kindness of some sort? Smiling more?
    (Actually, smiling more is always a good habit, for your own mood and of the other's)
     
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    I use strung beads of the non binary/ intersexed colors ( Lavender-white-olive) as my key fobs
     
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    I just wish I was a girl
     
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