This would be a huge help for me, and also have an index in there to help decipher how obvious one might be to others. The problem I am having is that it seems like an acquaintance is trying to figure me out, but I can’t tell for sure. We know each other from work and have hung out in groups outside of work as well. We get along pretty well and he tends to talk to me more than the others. On a good handful of times, he has insisted on paying for my lunch or coffee, but when I offer cover his cost, he will be reluctant and say it’s no big deal and I don’t need pay for him. We both have money to cover our own and he knows this, and while I offer to pay just to keep things even, he is the one who keeps offering first. At times he has gone above and beyond offering to help me out with things. At first I figured that was just how he is but I don’t see him being quite that way with others. What gets interesting is that he has regularly brought up the topic of LGBT people and things gay guys are into (including a particular dating site that’s popular with gay men). He has also made it a point to tell me that he has excellent gaydar and in a sarcastic tone he regularly insist that some of my hobbies are gay and only gay guys are into them. These hobbies are about as far from stereotypical gay as you can get. Sometimes I think he implying that what I do is gay because he thinks I am gay, but again I am not sure. Anyway, when I finally responded to him by saying “I am starting to think you are trying to tell me something about yourself” and he answers “it’s about time”. With so much sarcasm being thrown around I can’t tell if there is any seriousness in there. To me this guy seems completely straight, has had a girlfriend for several years and does openly show interest in women but not in men. However, he has never said anything about his sexual orientation either way. I keep telling my self that he just has a strange sense of humor but in the back of my mind I keep thinking that there is something more going on. I am not out, and especially at work, but several years ago another one of my co-worker had sarcastically said “well you are part gay aren't you”, and recently someone else I worked with for a short while out of the blue say he wanted to F**K me. I put him in his place real quick. Does this mean that no one at my work thinks I am straight? I really don’t know how other people see me so any insight would be a big help.