Questions about my sexuality often keep popping up in my head. I'll try to keep this a little short since I'd already asked whether or not I was gay. I believe I could definitely be gay, but there's one issue that has been a blurry line. I have never been attracted to guys' bodies and feel a bit weird looking and being around a naked one. I do have dreams where I have had sex with them, but it is ALWAYS with the lights off and their faces or features generally aren't visible. When I fantasize about chicks I can picture everything clearly, and it doesn't feel as awkward. What do you guys think?
I suppose. But the thing is that I usually feel nasty after fantasizing about heterosexual sex. But I wonder why my mind wants to keep producing the fantasies. Perhaps it's my hormones too? I've also looked into asexuality as well.
So I assume that when you find yourself dreaming of sexing a guy, it's your run of the mill penetrative sex, yeah? What happens if you imagine a girl doing the same thing to you with a toy of some description?
Your dreams might simply be trying to fit "sex" into your dreams, based on who and what you are...and what you've actually experienced. I remember my sex dreams were always very vague before I came out, but they still remained pretty vague until I actually HAD sex. Up until that point, it was like my brain was trying to put a sex scene in my dream, but since I had no experience, and wasn't even sure what type of sex I would (want to) have, it was just sort of two naked bodies near each other...and my brain sort of saying "OK, so then the sex thing happened." Lex
Yup, with every single guy I crushed on, whether real or not (and by this I mean fictional characters). I should also add that I am a virgin still and since i'm a bit confused I'm not sure whether to go after teh mens. But there's usually nothing too special involved. I generally find fantasizing about hetero sex a little boring...but I don't know why my mind keeps doing it lol!
Believe me, there are far worse things your mind could choose to play you when you dream than relatively uninteresting sex... I wouldn't worry about it too much...as for if you should 'go after teh mens', go after who you feel like. Emphasis on the world FEEL. If you fall hard for a guy, go for it, if it's a girl, go for it. Worry about the sex thing when you've found someone to sex!
Thank you. Trouble is all the guys I have ever liked have not liked me back and have been strangers. My current crush has been in one of my classes and he's a friend of a friend but we both major in the same thing and we're both artists. I also read somewhere that guys don't like girls who are too forward.
Protip, with the possible exception of physical violence, if you read somewhere "Guys don't like girls who..." you can ignore it.
Ok thanks for the advice :3 now I just need a makeover first before I approach him. Perhaps I could try to be his buddy?
I have the same thing. I'm a virgin-everything (date, kiss, never mind sex), but I've long felt like girls were more attractive to me. I had my first full-blown crush last year, on a girl. However, if I let myself, I will fantasize about heterosexual "sex." By "sex," I mean penetration by a penis. There's no romance involved in the least bit, no thoughts of touching, nothing. But I can still fantasize about it. It's weird, because I'll daydream about a relationship with a girl, her holding me, touching me and all, but when it comes down to it, why do I fantasize about being borderline raped by some stranger with a penis but no face, no identity? #mindfuck Anyway, at least I'm not alone lol. Post on my wall if you want to talk about it more.
So how is this any "weirder" than a straight person watching gay porn or having gay thoughts or fantasies? You are what defines you, not a label.
Wow, seriously, I can't believe I hadn't figured that out. Seriously, I say this in just bout every post i see about a guy kissing a guy and feeling super confused, yet I never flipped it around and applied it to myself. Thank you for the insight.
I'm a lesbian and I can tell you I've had dreams with guys making love to me some of them rape sometimes I like it in the dream and I'm like what the hell . When i wake up i'm not attracted to men at all i think this is normal . Straight women have dreams too about having sex with other women and they are not even attracted to other women .
