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Gay/lesbian vibe ??

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by MyLittleWorld, Jun 1, 2014.

  1. MyLittleWorld

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    Do you think it's a real thing related with "gaydar" or just excogitation? I heard a lot of people telling that gay people give off some kind of aura,
     
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    I know what you mean.
    I used to have a hopeless gaydar, but since I started being able to sense (not see) people's "energy" - it has improved a lot.
     
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    I think it's a real thing. I can almost always tell if someone is gay just because of the whole gaydar thing.
     
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    No one can guess that i'm a lesbian people tell me i don't give off the lesbian vibe , maybe they just as poor gaydar an I have not met a woman with great gaydar or I'm hard to detect . If I told people I'm a lesbian you will see their jaw drop . It's always How can this be . I would love it if I met a woman that can just tell .
    I think my dad has good gaydar he can spot a lesbian but he's been living with a femme lesbian for years and he can not tell I'm a lesbian but he quested me a few times . If I was open to him I would take him out and say now dad tell me which woman out here is a lesbian .
     
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    I think it exists with stereotypes, but for people that don't fit society's stereotypes it is less so. There are also studies trying to find correlations between physical features and sexual orientation (such as lesbians having longer index fingers, gay men having flatter faces). Some (maybe most) of these studies have proven to be inaccurate.
     
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    My index finger is short there goes that study lol :grin:
     
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    I've never viewed gaydar is anything to do with "vibes" It's about noticing where ones eyes go, who makes them smile, etc. That 2nd or 2 longer the linger to talk to a cute member of the same sex at the local store, etc. If you observe you pick it up.....that girl likes girls. lol It's not difficult at all imo.
     
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    Mine is too, silly study
     
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    For the most part I can tell--and I don't think it has a great deal to do with the stereotypes. I've clocked quite a few people over the years who weren't out at the time and later came out, including a few who insisted they didn't know themselves when we met.
     
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    I agree with VacantPlanets. Even if the person is the most stereotype straight male or straight female, you can easily guess by their eyes. To where does his eyes go when people walk around him/her; to whom does he smile in some way and to whom does he smile differently; if he acts nervous or overly confident; and many other things like averting his gaze blah blah blah.

    It all comes down to the stare!!
     
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    Hmm, i never consciously thought about it lately, but, yes, there are vibes. Though i could neither name nor explain them. Maybe less so today than during the late 80ies... Back then, needing to hide and having to give away tell-tale signals to the special ones was common for many lesbians. Having little vibe and little gaydar ment having to go to the few clubs or groups, socialising with what we used to call 'sub' or 'scene'. There are still personals from women of my generation or older saying "no scene women, please'. And there were lots of people who felt the same way back then.
     
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    Stubby fingers here, damn Botticelli hands!
     
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    I always just notice their body language, it's a good giveaway imo.
     
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    Gaydar is contingent on stereotypes; therefore, it's not always accurate. So...mine is somewhat accurate. Apparently, I give off that vibe. Well, I do now but gave off a vibe when I was younger.
     
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    No, not at all. Let me give myself as an example as I fit the "too feminine to be gay" stereotype.

    This just happened 2 nights ago. I was shopping in the store and went through checkout, there wasn't too many people in our area so the girl waiting on me was talking to me abit and when she finished I continued to talk to her because I was instantly attracted to her, and she turned out to be humorous and very blunt, which I do like so very much. And her giggles were shy and she seemed to care how I'd see her letting loose and then she informed me her shift was over so we could continue to chat.

    Anyone observing the way we responded to each other through facial expressions without even hearing what was said would've known we were attracted to each other. Simple observation.
     
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    I'd like to think that I emanate gay out of every pore. But I probably don't. I can never tell if a guy is gay. I thought my hairdresser was, because you know, stereotypes, but he has a wife. And he's not the type that would try to pretend not to be gay if he was.
     
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    I agree with this one. I think it's easy for me to tell if someone is gay when I base it from stereotypes.
     
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    By appearance or stereotypes: No.
    Eye contact: Possibly.
     
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    Mine is pretty good actually. I knew this one guy was gay before he did in school.