i have been meeting guys to build a social circle as I settle into new city and move on from my divorce. I have been successful thus far in making some new acquaintances and some are becoming more of what I would consider friends. Of a few that I have been engaging quite a bit with, both boyfriend questions from them have come up as have sex. Given I am not at a point to enter another relationship any time soon, I gently but clearly have closed the door on the relationships moving beyond friends. With one of them, we have had sex a few times. It was very intense, connected and intimate. After having done so, he raised the question of progressing further from just friends again. And again, I reiterated my desire just to keep it friends. After some discussion, it was clear he did not want a FWB situation, but he agreed and wanted to continue to build our friendship platonically. In this sitatuation, I am wondering if either he or I could truly keep the friendship plutonic, if the sexual chemistry which clearly exists intereferes, or if he is only agreeing to stay friends with the hope of a future relationship with me (which I would not necessarily rule out if I were indeed ready for one). With those thoughts, can we truly be plutonic friends? With the other, he has expressed his desire to want both a relationship and physical intimacy. I love our discussions, our banter and the time we hang out together. However, as mentioned, I am not looking for a deeper relationship nor does sex with him interest me. Another friend of mine whom I have known and respected for quite some time suggested to me this neither of these situations would lead to real long lasting plutonic friendships. And I certainly can see why he believes that and the challenges that trying to keep them plutonic create. I am curious if others have had experiences in these circumstances, and if so, how they were managed? Ideally, I would like to keep both of them as true plutonic friends.