It is confusing to me how someone could not think this forum was 'openly gay.' Do you understand that the name of the site, empty closets, is in reference to the common "coming out of the closet" thing, thus leaving the closet empty? Do you understand that coming out of the closet quite literally means becoming more open, with both yourself and others, about being gay (or bi, trans, etc)? It is a very difficult process for many to become more open about being gay, both to themselves and to everyone else, and this forum is here to support people who are at various stages of that process. You will not, however, find support for your attempts at further self-denail or for your position that being gay is not ok, no matter how sound you think your reasoning is.