First Time With a Guy

Guessing- a male and bi???

 

assigned male at birth, they identify as non binary though so i would be remiss to call them male. However i know OP was asking about a M/M sexual intimacy, as its not quite the same but still a similar experience that could provide some help

 

That makes sense….

 

Thank you. Hard to keep up with all the acronyms.

 

That reminds me of my first time. I answered a personal ad and went to the guy’s house. I had just taken my coat off and sat down when he started pawing my crotch. We went through with it, but I lost his phone number real quick!

 

Yes lube is almost essential, my partner likes to put on the condom and then lube it I losen up my partner with a dildo first, then with him in position to do it doggy style carefully insert my penis. I find doggy style to be best for control and penetration. Doing anal standing up is quite good too.

 

With me it came pretty natural. I had fantasized about it for a long time. There are plenty of good guides online, here are my top tips:
1. Use your hands too.
2. Tell him how nice it is, make eye contact.
3. Consider using a flavored lube too. Its fun but a lot of work!
4. Variety - lick, suck, kiss everywhere.

Most of all I think is really wanted to do it. I didn't like my first experience (I chose a hook up too quickly) but it was still better than any sex I had with a woman. I was thinking "This may not be the exact flavor I want but this is what I want for dessert".
My second I had a lot more in common and I was already turned on when I unzipped his pants and saw him in his boxer briefs.

 

Same here, loosen your partner with a dildo and then carefully inserting a lubed penis for doggy style.

 

Giving the penis a kiss before taking it in the mouth is quite a sign of affection for me.

 

also even though I had practiced or experimented with toys, the real was much more emotionally intense and of course you don't have as much control, but also when he hit my 'spot' it was universe bending orgasmic, far beyond any toy!

On top is a lot of work but is best for control. Doggy styles is best for penetration but I love the intimacy of missionary.

 

The important thing is to not feel pressured into any sexual activity. If you are having sex due to pressure, you're having it for all the wrong reasons. We should only have sex because we want to.

By all means, start taking PreP before having penetrative sex, but don't think of it as a magic pill that eliminates the need for safe sex. Whether topping or bottoming, always rubber up and use plenty of lube. Remember, PreP significantly reduces the risk of contracting HIV, but it doesn't offer any protection against other STI's which are increasing alarmingly around the world.

If you are topping another guy, be a good top who listens and is respectful of the other guys wishes and needs. Don't be selfish and start pounding away at him within the first 10 seconds, just because you are horny. Ask him if/when he is ready for that. Equally, if you are bottoming, participate in the fun and tell the top what is and isn't working for you and insist on taking a break for more lube or comfort, if you need it. Communication makes for great sex.

Oral sex is good, but don't suck another guy's dick if you have any cuts or ulcers in your mouth as these can become entry points for infection and if you are in the habit of shaving your balls (or more) maybe wait a day or two before having sex, just in case you caught yourself while shaving or opened up follicles, which could also become entry points for infection.

Sex is great when it's safe and you communicate.

 

Yes, I do. It was pretty much unforgettable experience, especially considering it was pretty much unexpected - I mean, I was totally in the closet, but a guy asked me on a date and somehow I agreed.
He was one charming fellow and had some fine gentlemanly manners, which I found hard to resist. Knowing full well that I’ll probably hate myself even more afterwards, I have it to his advances… The rest, the rest came naturally. When we were going to his place, I had no idea what or how we’ll actually be doing, so I allowed him to take the lead. Once we began, undressing each other and kissing it felt just natural, so I just followed my gut instinct, so to say, and did what seemed to be the right thing to do - but him (most likely) having experience with men also helped much. (Having had first sexual experience with a female, for whom it was also the first one, I can say things can get awkward if both are completely inexperienced.)
It was amazing.

 

Pretty much so, but I’m not good enough with words to describe properly it without mentioning the, uh, more intimate details - which might be unsuitable for public posting

 

Don't mind us, we're a very open minded bunch!

 

I’m beginning to suspect some of y’all came to this thread for some real-life gay erotica