Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by BiBoyToy, Feb 3, 2021.
Thank you, @BiBoyToy
Of coarse! Anytime.
I completely agree , I enjoy those when starting a reliationship , the euphoria builds up but the girls in the USA , in my hetero life , always want to rush things up , they’re not used to enjoying this. They usually want to go straight to sex , usually bad /rough sex coz that’s all they know, down the line they start having good sex and fall in love but for me it’s the opposite : im sweet and in love first , and get naughtier with time and eventually loose Interest .
anyway I diverge , back to the original topic )
I was incredibly young when I had my first sexual experience. We were both 11 years old and he was my best friend. It was fully consensual though and I felt it to be quite a beautiful thing. We started "dating", as much as an 11 year old is capable of loving someone in that way, I loved him dearly. I ended up losing him because of our relationship and was later subjected to terrible physical abuse and torture, as well as psychological torture under the hand of adults and kids, together... it severely fucked me up for a very long time. I'm finally receiving help more than 20 years later.
I don't know how normal it is for kids that age but it seemed pretty normal to me at the time. I've been told that it's normal for pre-teens to "experiment" with sex-type acts [not necessarily "have sex", however] but I am not a child psychologist. All that I know is that I loved him dearly and he was my world. I wish we were still friends, at the very least... there's a complicated story behind who we are today but I won't go into it.
and on the point of non-sexual euphoria, that is exactly what we had with each other before we ever started "dating". I believe that love comes before sex, at least for me it does. My relationship with him is proof for me. :] I've always been "demi" I guess?[dunno if that's the correct term] but I never put out until I've fallen in love with said person.
I guess "Demi" isn't correct because I still find guys highly attractive regardless if I love them or not, but I do not give my body to them unless we have a deep emotional connection, fist... I don't know what you would call that. [?]
My experience with another woman was on the swim team in high school. Apparently there was some things going on behind closed doors with a bunch of girls on the team. It happened during a sleep over with a few of the girls on the team. What an incredible experience it was
The thing that surprizes me when reading a thread like this is how young some people start..
As for me ... I've never had a first experience of any type (not even simple things like kissing or cuddling) with anyone (guy or girl)
I think the first kiss can be very special too
It sure can!
Thanks for sharing, @Shadowsettler. I really enjoyed reading what you had to say!