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First date ever - help

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Grace24601, Jun 2, 2017.

  1. Grace24601

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    So I asked a girl to go on a date with me and she said yes, yay, but now I'm freaking out because I know nothing about dating. I've never been on a date before and I'll be fine with conversations and stuff but what about date specific stuff. Like do you kiss on the first date? I mean that's the normal thing right? Do we hold hands?

    Honestly, I'm really hoping she's more experienced than me, which isn't hard, so she can like lead the situation in a way. But yeah, please tell me if there's anything I should or definitely should not do.:help:
     
  2. Fishtail

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    Having the 1 date don't equally mean or end with the 1 kiss.
    You may should ask yourself where the thought of if comes from?
    Most tend to be dissapointing (mostly female) after the date due to unrealistic expectation from
    how dating in movies/TvSerier are displaying.
    It is shown that straight relationship can be unhealthy if watching too much romantic stuff.
    It depends on the person if they do that, same goes for holding hands.
    Just ask if it's okay before doing so. :grin:

    Good thinks are:
    1) Be one time. Otherwise to the other person it looks like you don't care.
    2) When you get a compliment say thanks and don't make a big deal of it.
    3) Ask the other and let youself be asked by the other person about stuff.
    Think of youself as a detective whitout going overboard.
    4) To these topics to talk about should the conversation dry out:
    Funny storys about childhood/family, Favorit food/animal/TvSeries/TvShows.

    Keep it light and don't talk about too serious stuff like political, religion or bad Tv/news.

    Bad thinks can be:
    1) Dressing in too skin revealing clothes.
    2) Talk about you dreamhouse, kids and future stuff like that.
    3) Gossip about other people or complain too long.
    So if the food/movie/whatever is bad don't make too much a deal of it.

    Other advise:
    Don't be too easygoing, let the other person move closer if
    you tend to be more shy/nervous than the other person.
    Tell youself you aren't nervous, convince yourself you are just existed to calm you nerves down.

    Hope it's a bit helpful and good luck. :thumbsup:
     
  3. Grace24601

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    Thank you so much, this is really helpful :slight_smile: