How do we separate these? I know the automatic response is to say "well, if you're into guys sexually, then obviously you're attracted to men", but what if there really is a difference? What if one develops a sexual attraction to men that is entirely fetishistic? In the same way you might develop a fetish for anything outside of your "true" orientation? How does one learn to separate those things? I say this, because whatever attraction I have to men, it simply doesn't feel the same as my attraction to women, and I'm desperately trying to parse that out and understand it. I simply don't relate to people who fawn over guys - to me, guys are rather ugly and not sexy. I never had any real male crushes growing up, they were all female. But I can't deny a fascination with guys having sex, or my fantasies about it. I just feel weirdly disconnected from it, like it isn't me. When I've had sex with men, I get that same disconnect, like it isn't real and I'm just kidding myself for some stupid reason, and I feel like an idiot for even going down this path in my mind. The whole thing just feels weird. I want it to work, but I don't think it does.