I have never used a chat room or forum before so really nervous about this. I am feeling very lonely and isolated...I am in a really complicated situation. Hoping to hear about others stories and be heard.
Hey welcome to EC, dont worry a lot of people are nervous when they first join but everyone is really friendly.
I think the UK lockdown has a lot of people feeling similar. I know I have from time to time. Welcome to the site!
Hi Jane! I totally understand feeling nervous when joining your first forum or chatroom, EC's the only forum I've ever been on but it's relatively easy to figure out the system. I hope we here at EC can help you feel less confused.
Hey Jane. Don't worry, many if not most people who begin questioning later in their lives also find themselves in complicated situations. Having an elephant hidden in the room makes it a little difficult to walk a straight line. You are ok and very welcome here.
Hi Jane, welcome to the community. You have mustered up the courage to create an account and post. You have taken the hardest step. Hopefully by being part of EC you will feel less isolated and lonely. Feel free to post and read others' stories and experiences. Welcome aboard.
Thanks so much. Thanks everyone. So many lovely messages. It is such a confusing time. I have had a dawning in the last few months that I am bi-sexual. I have also known it underneath...signs...things that happened in my childhood. There have been a lot of problems in my marriage in the last 2 years stemming from revelations from my husband’s side and with the help of a therapist, this has helped me be more independent and freed me from unhealthy sexual ties with my husband. This has allowed me to feel what is more natural to myself and it is not towards my husband or men. I really want to explore this and meet some other women but I am constrained by my family set up - a mother of 4 fairly young children. I haven’t told my husband yet. Though I want to. So much hidden deep inside.
It’s not uncommon to realise your sexuality in your 30s, 40s,... and I pleased to read that you have the support of a therapist. I was in a long term (emotionally abusive) relationship, with a young daughter, when I realised my sexuality, so my situation was complex too. It’s a really difficult situation. Have a look in the Later In Life section, you should find some stories similar to yours.
Hi i was in a similar situation- i have three small kids too (3-5) and known i was a lesbian all my life. It was either continue living a lie or be true to myself - i thought what would i want for my babies I told their father who accepted it and now i have found a lovely partner. The kids are more occupied with Peppa Pig and zooming with their little friends but they know mummy and daddy are best friends and mummy loves aunty. To be honest they are not as bothered as i thought they might be and it has been disappointing - planned to read them books and talk to them about lgbtq stuff but they accepted the situation like they accept nutella with their strawberries
