Hello guys, hope you guys are having a good evening. If you don’t know my backstory, I don’t necessarily like labels, but I’m attracted to women. I was hoping that by writing this out, I could gain some advice and insight. I have feelings for a friend, but she’s not available. I’m having trouble maintaining the friendship because of my feelings for her, I resorted to creating distance between us but I feel bad every time she reaches out because I feel like such a bad friend for not putting in the same effort as her, there are times that I want to tell her my feelings, but I end up going back and forth and I feel so helpless at the moment. Then I beat up myself for not being able to tell her and feel like I can’t be vulnerable with my feelings. I just don’t know what to do. Can you guys provide any insight or support for a distressed person at the moment? Thanks
Hi there, Sorry you’re going through this. You are not alone in this situation, it’s actually quite common. I’m in the same boat and I have been scouring all the forums available on the subject in the hopes it would help. The same advices keep popping up: - take time for yourself - keep busy One of the article I read about it really stuck with me. I hope it’s ok to post it here - https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/01/dealing-with-unrequited-love/ And I hope it helps you a little as I’m terrible at giving advice. All the best and keep looking up
I would second keeping busy and taking time for yourself. Could you tell you’re friend that you’re going through something (and you can be vague, say you don’t want to talk about it) and that you need some space?
Hey there, I’ve been on the receiving end of the distancing because of confused feelings. 3 years later and I still haven’t gotten a word of what went wrong or why she stopped talking to me. I think the best thing you can do is be honest with her. If she’s not interested then at least you know and at least she knows what is going on. Personally, It’s excruciating living in limbo and so hard to gain closure.
Hey there, I’ve been on the receiving end of the distancing because of confused feelings. 3 years later and I still haven’t gotten a word of what went wrong or why she stopped talking to me. I think the best thing you can do is be honest with her. If she’s not interested then at least you know and at least she knows what is going on. Personally, It’s excruciating living in limbo and so hard to gain closure.
Hey there, I’ve been on the receiving end of the distancing because of confused feelings. 3 years later and I still haven’t gotten a word of what went wrong or why she stopped talking to me. I think the best thing you can do is be honest with her. If she’s not interested then at least you know and at least she knows what is going on. Personally, It’s excruciating living in limbo and so hard to gain closure.
