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Feeling....like I've lost someone....but the loss has been ongoing

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Guywest79, Jun 15, 2018.

  1. Guywest79

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    Hey,

    So just want feedback fr others. I've slowly accepted me and this guy aren't go ing to be anything... he kept telling me he doesn't want relationship w me and or he' not ready for anyone.

    This morning get these cryptic texts saying he's in a relationship and hinting he sent that because his new bf wanted him too.

    Side note, sounds like bf is already controlling.

    I dunno, I guess it just feels like I've been kicked to the curb...i don't know why it' s annoyed me.

    Hope post makes sense......btw me and him have sorta been on off "friends "(No benefits)
     
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    The only advice I can really offer is to put him behind you and move on. The longer you dwell on him and what happened, the longer you'll be unavailable to someone else.
     
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    Thanks...Ive realized he was first guy to.offer ..albeit turned out to be fake..romance after I hid in closet again after having dated another guy for couple years....

    Hard to explain ....but it just sucks being rejected and then watching him with someone else...and he thinks I should be ok with it
     
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    Looks like you are better off without him. Easy for me to say. It will take you time. Be easy on yourself.
    Ignore or block texts that do you more damage than good.
    Do not go back into the closet this time around.
     
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    Thank you...no closet...im my advertising to everyone but no longer hiding it really.. only ppl who don't know are a couple ppl That there's no benefit telling..older....might cause them to over react