Family won’t accept my dad as NB

I think your dad would really appreciate it if you stuck to they/them pronouns, evem when the rest of your family disagrees. Yes, it’s awkward, but your dad knew they were taking a huge risk coming out and I’m sure they want nothing more than to be accepted for who they truly are. If you’re persistent then the rest of your familiy may come around, even if only reluctantly. If you’re struggling to overcome the feelings of awkwardness, consider the mental wellbeing of your dad, as every day of them being called “he/him” despite coming out is probably akin to a nightmare.

 

I do think it is a good idea, and like Atypical said, im sure your dad would appreciate it. However, i feel like when people are non-accepting, there is a time and place. if you believe around certain people it would cause arguments, distress (for your dad), or anger to happen, i would not recommend it. but if you want to really fight that fight id say go ahead. if you decide to do what is correct for your dad, remember, there is probably always going to be negative passing comments, insults, and even arguments. coming from personal experience. (however yours may be different)

as for convincing your mother, i dont think there is really anything you can do. sometimes people come around, learn to accept others for what they are. but on the other hand, sometimes that never happens. if you put pressure on your mom/the rest of your family acceptance will probably go at a slower pace. i have learned from talking to non accepting people who come around to accept me and others, and even people who were middle-ground, the change especially if it was sudden takes a long time to fully register. they sort of push it to the back of their brain because they either dont believe it, dont want to believe it, or think it is unimportant. in my experience, when i came out, it was very hard for my mother to register it and change her language, even though she is a very accepting person. change takes time.