Hi everyone. I have a very serious question. I'm a 22 year old male, who is overweight. I Played sports in high school, but haven't done so in the past 4 years so the weight has been slowly adding on. I've just recently started eating less calories, hoping to lose 100 pounds over the next year. I've finally come to accept that I am who I am, and that I am GAY. But ever since accepting that, I have been so aroused by everything; gay porn specifically, and looking though Instagram at guys. I always get aroused easily, but ever since accepting myself, it's almost uncontrollable. I never really grew up close to my brothers, or around guy friends, so I was never really "shown" what its like to masturbate or talk about girls (I felt/feel very distant from guys who are straight, because I mostly never have anything in common with them... "Oh, that girl is hot..." I just didn't have those feelings because of course I like guys. I do like girls, but my feelings are much more stronger for guys. It's hard being around friends who talk about girls, when they have no clue that I like guys. So with that being said, I get aroused so easily. Here's my question. Since I don't have anyone in my life that I can talk to about sexual things, I would like to talk to you guys. I'm not sure if I can't relate to anyone though. It's mainly about pre cum. Is it normal to always leak pre cum when aroused? I look through Instagram at guys, and I always end up pre cuming. It's absolutely annoying. Of course it feels good to masturbate, but I'm tired of the pre cum. I look at one photo, and a few minutes later I'm "leaking". It's kind of embarrassing. Anything turns me on. Is this normal? Tired of changing underwear every time it happens. What is this like for you guys ? I hate to say this, but just thinking about guys can cause pre cum. Even writing this make it start Thanks
I'm not really sure... Personally I don't get pre cum unless I have been aroused for a little bit. I don't have an exact time table, more than a minute less than five is the best I can give you. Also if I am browsing more erotic images for any length of time. It might be a question better answered by your doctor. I wish you luck on your weight loss. Just keep at it.
I don't know. I think everyone is different and some guys pre-cum a lot, some a little, and some not at all. I think it's normal. If you're comfortable with going, you can always ask a doctor for more clarity.
I also pre-cum and I do it a lot especially when I'm really into someone I am with or really into what is happening sexually. Honestly, when I first noticed my situation with pre-cum, I did have some concerns as to whether it was a normal thing because some of the guys I was with did not do this when they got aroused. However, I did bring this up for advice to a doctor I knew at the time who informed me that I am not the only guy who does this and its nothing to be concern with. He told me that pre-cumming is a display of how passionate and intense you are on a sexual basis which is considered quite the turn on. When I came to realization about this is when I happened to get involved with guys that either did have the same reaction as myself or those who have gotten turned on with the fact that I did pre-cum and in return, they licked and sucked up every drop with excitement which turned me on to no end also.
Sounds to me like you're totally normal, really. Some guys don't pre-cum at all, some only pre if they are really aroused or aroused for a long period of time, some pre every time they get even a little bit aroused. Also, some guys only pre-cum a small amount of fluid, while others churn it out like nobody's business. Things can also change with age. Some guys produce less as they get older, while others end up producing more and/or the way they produce can change (ex: A guy who spent most of his life only producing pre-cum when aroused for a long period suddenly hits 40 and changes to producing it every time he becomes even somewhat aroused - or vice-versa). Hope this helps, Todd
Thanks for all the input! Really appreciate it. Glad I'm not the only one. It's tough when you don't have any friends to talk to regarding something like this. Now I kind of have another question that is kind of related... Is it normal to get erections all the dang time when sexual stimulus is there? Like I said in the first post, I can get erections when thinking about guys (girls sometimes) and looking at pictures/porn. I can sometimes hold off an erection for a few minutes, but that's it. For example, I remember one time in the locker room after football practice my senior year of high school. A bunch of the guys were just messing around and wrestling. Well, I popped a boner when someone was on me and someone pointed it out... I don't think anyone heard him though. Also, I'm scared of popping a boner if I ever go to a pride event. Is this normal to have such a high "sex drive?" My biggest fear is hanging out with friends (or gay friends) and popping a boner. Why can't I control this? Does this happen to anyone else. I'm even getting an erection now as I'm typing this. I'm worried that I'm a "sex addict (masturbating)" even though I'm a virgin
When you're in the 18-25 (or even 18-30 or so) age range - yeah, it's pretty normal. Unless you're masturbating so much that it's actively interfering with other aspects of your life (e.g., you never go out with friends because all you're doing is staying home beating off), you're not a sex addict. Different guys have different preferences for how often they masturbate - some guys may only do it every few days or less, while others do it 4-5 times a day or more - and there really isn't one 'right' amount to do it. And, just like with pre-cum, the amount can vary over time as you age, or for no obvious reason whatsoever. Traditional ways to deal with 'too many boners' are lots of masturbation, cold showers, or finding things to think about (math problems, imagining someone who you find really unattractive naked, thinking about being really freezing cold, etc.) that 'cool your jets' and make the boner go away when in a situation where it's not appropriate. Being able to adjust your clothing so as to sort of hide it can also work, depending on your size, the angle of your erections, and the type of clothes you normally wear. Hope this helps, Todd
I'm kind of thinking that I'm addicted to it. I don't do it 4-5 times a day EVERY day, but sometimes, very rarely, will I be so aroused that I do it 3 times in one day. I would think I do it maybe 2-4 times weeks... Actually, 4 times a week is a lot. It's more like an average of 2-3 times a week. For me personally, it's super hard to deal with. When I get one, or feel one coming on, I am either checking out a hot guy, or thinking about something sexual. I want to get my mind on something else, but my brain doesn't want to... I mean I know guys masturbate all the time, but I'm worried that this will interfer with a partner (man or woman) when the time comes... In terms of always getting an erection, pre-cum, etc. Thanks again, Todd, for the help.
Sounds to me like you're pretty much average then. Nothing to worry about on this front IMHO Well no, it doesn't. Because being turned on and having a hard on feels good Realize that some of this will get easier with age and practice. You'll figure out what to think to keep from getting a boner when you don't want one, or how to compartmentalize thoughts so you can check out a hot guy or think sexually kind of at one remove and so without getting aroused (at least for a bit). The main thing is don't let it fluster you and just try to calmly work on managing the situation. Believe it or not, some guys (and probably some women, I expect), find a guy whose oozing pre like crazy to be quite the turn on. And I've yet to ever hear of anyone being bothered by their partner's tendency to throw a bone at the drop of a hat. Trust me, you'll do fine Todd
You can count me in that group :lol: There's an amazing variety in the whole pre-cum/ejaculation department. Some guys don't pre-cum and when they cum just a tiny bit dribbles out. Other guys pre-cum like crazy and I had one experience where the guy literally peed cum all over me, it was like a firehose :roflmao: Since there is such a huge spectrum you don't have to worry that you are 'abnormal.' Trust me, I have years of experience :icon_bigg
