Hey y'all, Context: Out-to-everyone bisexual with 3 teenage kids in a happy 5 year, live-in straight relationship... and I think I may actually be a lesbian. My question though is about expression... I told my partner that one of the changes he may notice while I feel things out is that I may "express my gay-ness more"... but I feel like every time I do something that it'll be perceived as me pushing away from him, rather than that I'm just allowing myself to express myself naturally. Maybe because since I was very young my self-expression has always been about what I'm "supposed" to do (how to be sexy therefore validated, or how dad makes me dress & carry myself in church, how to dress/act not to get bullied in school, etc) so it's always been intentional, and now I'm kind of rebelling against all of that. Have any of you experienced anything like that, or along those lines? I don't want to just become a stereotype, like, 'ever since she became a lesbian she started wearing rainbow everything or dressing like a man' or whatever, but also just want to BE and shaving is such a patriarchal thing, ya know? But I don't know where this relationship is going if I'm truly a lesbian and don't want to do things that make him feel snubbed for a reason neither of us can control.