I have recently came to the choice that I am gay. My question is are there times when you do not feel gay enough? For me it seems like some days I can not get the thought of sex out of my head, like I am super turned on and just want to do it like all day. And then other times I have no interest in sex that day. It is weird I am not sure how to explain it. Does anyone else feel this way?
I know how you feel, I sometimes feel that way. I think it is normal, but then again I dont know for sure. But you are not alone
I don't think there is anything wrong with not thinking about sex all the time. Some people think about it more, some less. It has nothing to do with being gay though. I don't gay people think about sex any more than straight people.
This is true, bi and gay people do not think about sex more than straight people...but they do think about their sexuality and sexual orientation more, for obvious reasons.
There's no such thing as "gay enough." If you are attracted to men and not women then you are gay, whether you are thinking about sex on any particular day or not. When I'm at work and not thinking about sex, I don't stop being gay during that time. It's also a myth that gay people think about sex more than straight people. Maybe we're just more willing to admit it. As others have said here, you sound perfectly normal and I think you're gay enough.
It happens. Some days I feel completely straight, other days the thought of being with men is overwhelming, and other days I don’t think about it at all. Life happens
I guess I'm different than the others - I pretty much always have sexual thoughts in my head even when I don't notice they're there. That didn't change between straight and gay though, it's just been that way for a long time. It took awhile to figure out that I flirt without meaning to sometimes with total strangers through eye contact. My eyes know my thoughts better than I do haha.
I think were conflating things a little here. Our sexual appetite doesn't in any way determine if we have solid gay credentials. One can have a poor sexual appetite and still be very gay. Many members of this forum have never had sex, but it doesn't make them any less gay than those who are wearing out the mattress. The point is, they know where their attractions lie. The ups and downs of life can be a real passion killer and we just have to accept that as a fact. Some days we may be turned on very easily, but other days we're just not in the mood. That's perfectly normal and it doesn't offer any indication of how gay we are.
I'm like this too. But not everyone is this way and it definitely has nothing to do with my sexuality.
