Does weight matter to you?

I'd have to say I don't want to be with an overweight person solely because I was nearing obese for half my life. I have dropped down to the "average" weight but I still have self esteem issues with the flab.

I usually am interested in slender or toned guys but most of the time the overweight people i meet are nicer and more of the type of personality I'd like to see in a potential mate but, I hated being overweight and could never see my self with some one who is.

 

I don't think many of us can deny that flat-chested, ripped (8-pack), smooth skin is sexy.

But, guys carry weight differently. A little extra (or in some cases a lot of exta) weight is cute and even hot. I guess I mean to say that I take it on a case by case basis.

I feel the same way about hairy chests. Normally, I don't like hair. I have a hairy chest, and I hate it..Or at least I used to. I think if I manage to keep it under control, it looks good on me (much to my surprise). My back on the other hand, as soon as I get the money..I'm waxing that hair right off! Some guys, I see the hair on their chests and it's a turn off. Others on the other hand, turn me on like a light switch! It's a puzzle!

 

actually, that isn't my first thought of someone who is sexy. I think very muscular guys often look somewhat unattractive. But then again, I'm like you in that I find certain features on one guy unattractive, but on another guy super sexy haha

 

I wont say no to a guy with a stomach I could wash my clothes one.

trying to get that myself.

 

Define "matter".

The way I put this sort of things is this. Give me two totally identical guys. I mean absolutely, totally the same in absolutely every way, shape and form. The only difference is that one is overweight, and the other is trim.

Yeah, I'd take the trim guy. And I'd say that's true about a lot of things. I'd take the rich guy. The more attractive guy. The guy with the nice car. The guy with the bigger dick.

The thing is - that's never the case. I'm NEVER presented with two identical people. People are wonderfully diverse and complex. And the above things - weight, money, dick size - are WAY down on my list of qualities. Yeah, I'd prefer a trim guy, I guess. But if it comes down to an overweight guy with a sense of humor, or a trim guy who can't laugh, you can bet me and Fatty will be yukking it up and leaving Mr Hot-n-Serious at the curb.

Lex

 

I totally agree with that, and I have definitely been attracted to some larger people, and not attracted to others. But for me, I am at a healthy weight and have to work very hard to stay there, so I would have an issue if my partner's eating habits were going to make it very difficult for me to stay healthy (i.e. always keeping junk food around, only going to sedentary/food-centered activities, etc.) That's not prejudice, it's just admitting that I need a certain environment and support to be able to do what I need to do for myself.

 

I actually agree. I don't have health problems, other than back issues, but that comes from work at the Food Bank, XD Bending down lifting heavy crap for 7 hours on some days tends to do that to a back.

I hated this thread, was glad when it died. Sad that it was revived. It's just depressing all over. I myself am Obese, although I get told for the most part I hold the weight better than most, I still know I am big, and that's not changing very soon.

In what way? I prefer being plenty active, and I'm again, obese. Just because someone is big does NOT mean they eat a lot, or don't exercise. Sometimes it's just the way your body works. I eat healthier than 90% of my skinny friends, and less than them. I'm also (for the most part) more active than them.

There is a lot more to weight than just "Oh, he/she eats a lot or doesn't exercise." There are some people that just cannot physically lose the weight that they put on, and I'm not saying that from my point of view. It's from many teachers and various experts that I've talked to throughout high school. Some people, who gained weight (For me, it was via depression) for various reasons, cannot physically lose the weight, without a DRASTIC change, but it also risks overstraining your body.

This thread is even more depressing than before, because not only does it seem a large amount of people here are shallow (not that it matters, but I do tend to try to use EC as a general populace for GLBT people), but uninformed about the people they are, and I use the word loosely, prejudice against.

 

Personnaly, I have a thing for big guys.
I find them reassuring, solid, and kind of sexy.
My husband is overweight, and so am I by the way, and that's something I have no problem with whatsoever. I deeply like the fact that when I am in his harms, I have the feeling to be wrapped in love and warmth. It makes me feel safe and loved.
It's too bad that big guys often feels so insecure because of their weight, because there is definitly much more about them than their size.
Big guys you're beautiful

 

^^ (Eleanor Rigby, your last line made me think of this)

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yDSK91mUNLU[/YOUTUBE]

Big girls you are beautiful.

 

In fact it was a direct reference to this

 

Honestly, and no offence intended, I think fatness is not an attractive feature. I dont have anything against the overweight people, and there are some beautiful obese people, but i was raised on being healthy so i, in turn, find it more attractive.

 

I thought so...but I didn't want to presume.

 

I'm not sure if it makes me a horrible person :dry:..but being the size that I was (295 lbs) and dropping to where I am now (197 lbs) ..overweight people just do not appeal to me what so ever... I suppose I should be a little nicer..but I really can't knowing what it's like to even be like that..it's just not appealing.

 

I'm sorry. I'm sorry that you feel like a thread that depresses people who ARE overweight/obese is ok. I'm sorry that you don't really know the definition of shallow, because by all definitions, a large chunk of the people in this thread ARE being shallow.

I really could care less about people's preferences. However, a LARGE amount of the comments they are making is what is causing the hostile reactions.

You don't see me going around going "Guys/Girls who are too skinny are gross, and just wrong." But apparently, it's ok to say that about people who are the opposite of skinny, according to this thread.

It's one thing to voice an opinion. It's another to make people feel worse about themselves BY voicing your opinion.

To be honest, I thought this thread should have been locked/deleted a long time ago.

There are sore subjects that I do not truthfully believe should be discussed, which is why certain topics (like politics for the most part) aren't really allowed, unless it is linked directly to another fact. Again, I am taking offense to a large amount of the posts in this thread, as are a LOT of members. But again, It's not the people who say Yes, weight matters, it's the people who say something hurtful ABOUT people who are fat that is doing the damage.