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Does the questioning ever stop?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by GayBatman, Aug 25, 2016.

  1. GayBatman

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    I'm pretty sure of my sexuality. I know I'm bi, my friends and my mom know I'm bi. But I still on occasion question myself if I'm bi, gay, or straight. Not as much as I used to, but I still sometimes do. My question is, even if you're almost certain who you are, does the questioning ever stop?
     
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    It hasn't for me. I still question myself.

    Here's my question to you. Other than erasing doubt, why wouldn't you question yourself? Is someone who can't or won't question themselves going to be more or less likely to make good decisions?
     
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    So far I'm pretty sure it doesn't stop.
     
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    As a 50 year old male, I can say that I haven't questioned my basic sexual preference (bisexual) since my mid-20's. But the degree that I felt more strongly towards one sex or the other drifted back and forth over time. So, I guess the bottom line would be: no, you never actually stop questioning, but that doesn't mean you can't (or shouldn't) accept who you are and be comfortable with it.
     
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    It never stopped for me. :frowning2: I've found other stuff to think about, so it isn't as bad.
     
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    hasn't for me.. drives me crazy sometimes!
    Sometimes I just think about guys
    Then the week after I am totally over it and thinking about girls

    Confusion.
     
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    I don't think it actually can. Because no one can actually know for sure. That is why it is good to not focus on labels and rather focus on finding love with an open mind. That is the ultimate point of the label isn't it?
     
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    It did for me. I thought I was bi for a while, even dated and "dated" women. But once I realized I was gay it just kind of all fell into place. Pretty much any feelings like that I had for women melted away within a month or so and I haven't thought about a woman that way in twenty five years. I think sometimes the nature of the conversation here skews toward thinking that everyone is in this questioning phase. Most people I know are pretty definite.
     
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    It used to be so, so , so bad for me when I started questioning. But now, since I know that I am bisexual and I actually finally came out to myself a few days ago, its not that bad anymore..