So, I'm sure this is a common worry, but please humor me. I know my immediate family and my closest friends would all be super supportive if I came out to them. A few of my closest friends are gay, in fact, so I don't even have to assume everyone would be supportive; I actually know. To me, though, it feels weird being past my college years and now suddenly telling everyone I like guys. I suppose I'm a little ashamed of lying to myself for so long, too, but I guess I just don't want the people I care about to think we're not close or that I don't feel safe coming to them with my problems. I don't want anyone to think our friendship is disingenuous because I kept this locked away for so long. Anyone have similar feelings? Or maybe advice on coming out, if you felt the same way? p.s. I was visiting my best friend the other weekend (we live in different cities now); he's gay, and he made an offhand joke to someone that I was "mostly straight" and gave me kind of a sly look. Do you think he can tell? I'm thinking of coming out to him first.