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Does being attracted to someone cognitively impair you?

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  1. ConnectedToWall

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    In other words, do you do a lot of stupid stuff around your crush? Do you feel like it's harder sometimes to form coherent thoughts and worry they'll think you're slow because of it?
    When I was younger I couldn't even talk to my crushes. I've thank god been able to overcome this but catch myself saying and doing stupid things and wondering what their true opinion of me is because of it.
     
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    I honestly don't have any problems talking to people I have crushes on. Actually, I might say I find it easier. Although, I'm awkward and quiet around everyone until I get to know them. Then you can't shut me up! My last crush was one of the people I talked to the most for a little while. Even more than some of my closest friends. The only problem was he's straight.
     
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    Yes. I'm unbelievably attracted to my sister's friend, and whenever he's around I'm just an incoherent, awkward mess. I'm also rendered completely mute. In fact, just the last week he was hanging around, and out of the blue, he turns to me and declares that I'm too quiet. I basically had a heart attack. All I managed to do was smile like an idiot and do that stupid glance at him and then glance away thing. Words were on the tip of my tongue, but he just takes away my ability to be anything but a stuttering, red in the face, uncomfortable subhuman.
     
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    Usally I get to know someone pretty well before I become attracted to them, so its rarely a issue, thou I do get flustered/choked up super easly if your super amazing or if your a super hot guy thats nice to everyone
     
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    Not really. I just tend to be quieter, but if I talk, I'll seem perfectly normal.
     
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    I tend to not talk at all to anyone except them if they are around. Basically i tunnel vision super hard. I have to intentionally look away and try and converse normally. (Luckily for me the extent of my normal conversation is randomly throwing in some solution to a problem people are discussing then continuing to be quiet)
    I do not lose mental function anymore, though I used to get pretty nervous and flustered. Now I mentally distance myself from my body if I feel like I'm losing control of myself.
     
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    I do get a bit nervous and fidget more but not really other than that.
     
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    No, but I'm also not a teenager anymore.
     
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    Haha, I like that answer. I'm hoping I'll gain more confidence as I age.
     
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    You are not alone! I used to be like that too but it's getting a little better. I can talk to my crush about things that don't matter, mostly. I still have this thing though where sometimes I'll have something funny I want to say but it just won't come out, like there's a disconnect from the wire in my brain for thinking and talking (I'm aware there's no literal wire, haha).
     
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    I act very awkwardly around people who I'm attracted to. It's very unfortunate -- it's kept me from making new friendships (and/or mantaining them). I have a horrible tendency to develop crushes on friends, which invariably ends up with me cutting ties when the situation becomes unbearable. For me the problem is not only the way I act when in the presence of my crushes, but also how much time I spend thinking about them when I'm alone. Due to these problems I often think that love is a sickness that I should try my best to avoid - but a sickness that tends to make people who are in love somewhat happy as well, nonetheless.
     
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    I would agree that a lot of times love does feel like a terrible illness.