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Do you want any children?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by quietisviolent, Dec 12, 2015.

  1. Xeno

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    Nope, I really don't like kids and taking care of one seems like it would be way too much responsibility.
     
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    Ummm no*

    Subject to change. Hahah..... but who knows?
     
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    Yes.

    I want one or two, depends of how I can handle this. Adoption is a very lengthy and costly path, and being trans, I don't think they'd ever let me adopt. However, that's why I didn't have a hysterectomy. I think that if I can have the support of a partner, I could go through with pregnancy. My dysphoria is mostly social, after all. Though, as soon as I'm done with it, the uterus goes into the trash can,
     
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    Yes, I want to adopt one or two children, be a cool parent, and share my wisdom :grin:
     
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    Not really. Even if I was straight, I still wouldn't really want kids. It's not that I hate kids, but they're just not my thing.
     
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    This is gonna be a big problem for me. :frowning2:
    I love children but i can't have any. not yet at least.
    i feeling so jealous when see couples with their cute child.
     
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    Honestly I'd be more happy adopting children rather than creating my own. It sounds cool and all having your own child with your DNA and all. But there's so many children out there who don't have families and that makes me really sad. Besides I want 2 boys and 2 girls. Of course if they feel like being something other than what they were assigned at birth then so be it. But those are the two genders I'd prefer to have. I just really hope my partner (the guy) will understand that childbirth is painful and I kind of have a dysphoria of it too.....
     
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    Depends. I would not want to raise a child from the age of zero to their teenage years but maybe someone at least 11 or 12 years old would be fine. But only if I have someone else to help me. But I'm just 14 so this could easily change.
     
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    I'm kind of neutral on having children at this time. Really, all it comes down to is what my potential partner would want. If she wants kids, then I'd be more than willing to have children. If she doesn't, then it ain't happening. I'd personally want to adopt, just because there are so many kids that could use a home.
     
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    Yes, I would like to have kids someday when the time is right.
     
  11. No, not right now. When I'm a little older and I have someone to help me out, then yes. :grin:
     
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    I've never had a very good relationship with children in a general sense. I can see the appeal to having children for some people. Perhaps I will remain fairly neutral on the issue until it becomes more relevant to me.
     
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    I'm undecided on it :shrug:
     
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    Heeeeell no! (Am I allowed to swear here?)

    I'm irresponsible enough and have too many commitment issues with my schoolwork alone! Pretty sure I'll ruin the children's lives too.

    Also, the process of reproduction itself is not at all appealing.
     
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    Not at all and I am pretty fortunate for not getting a lot of flack for it. I made the decision permanent at 28 (tubal) and both my gyno (woman) and the surgeon she referred me to (male) were cool about it. I'm glad to see the stigma about women choosing not to have children is going away. It's serious business and I'm happy to leave the decision to those who at least have a biological desire to.
     
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    Maybe I'll adopt someday, I don't know. I think I'd adopt an older child, though, I don't think I'd want a baby. And the thought of actually, personally being pregnant and giving birth completely repulses me.

    (Because I have to explain myself before someone jumps on my back, no, I don't find pregnant people repulsive. It's just that if I was pregnant, I'd hate it.)

    Another reason I don't want a biological child is because mental health issues run in my family. I know what it's like to go through that and I'm not risking inflicting them on an innocent kid. That's my personal choice.
     
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    I'm ambivalent towards the idea, but most of the time my answer would be no. Honestly, my general philosophy towards this is that, unless I am really positive about having a child and I am on board with the responsibilities that might come with it, I won't have a child.

    I don't think it will be any good for my child(ren) if I'm not fully committed and prepared, or if I myself am not super enthusiastic on it, and decide to have children anyways. I don't want that for them. Until the day I am far more confident on the idea, I'll have to say no.
     
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    No, no, and no. I absolutely hate small children- I can STAND a kid once it's 6 or older, but I still wouldn't want one...
     
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    Hell fucking no. It's just the more I think about it, the less appealing it is. I have nothing against kids but as someone from a big family, I've already changed my share of diapers, been thrown up on, etc. I'm not good with kids outside of my family- they just tend to weird me out and annoy me. Just don't see it in the cards. Who knows if it'll change but right now it's not something I'm concerned about.
     
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    Yes, but not anytime soon. I'd love to adopt a child or two once in 10-15 years from now though.