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Do you prefer to be big spoon or little spoon? (question about cuddling)

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Lawrence, Apr 25, 2018.

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Do you prefer to be big spoon or little spoon? (question about cuddling)

  1. Big spoon

    10 vote(s)
    20.8%
  2. Both pretty much equally

    23 vote(s)
    47.9%
  3. Little spoon

    14 vote(s)
    29.2%
  4. Do not want

    1 vote(s)
    2.1%
  1. Lawrence

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    Which one do you prefer to be with your partner(s) & why do you prefer that option?

    If you haven't done it yet, then which one do you think you would prefer?
     
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    Both but preferably little spoon.
    I like the way it feels, physically and emotionally.

    I need someone to cuddle with again.
     
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    Little spoon! It's nice to feel safe and coddled.
    My partner runs at like 1000 degrees though, so being little spoon is like getting swallowed by the sun.:fire:

    Of course, when I'm big spoon, I get too cold :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I could do either, but when I picture it I usually lean to the big spoon
     
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    Depends. I’ve always been big spoon with women but whenever I think of cuddling with men I’m always little spoon
     
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    According to my exhusband before, big spoon. I can tolerate being little spoon for few minutes only, then I get uncomfortable.
     
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    I've not done it yet, so I'm not 100% sure, but I think I would prefer both equally.
     
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    We switch several times during the course of each night.
     
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    Little spoon. To echo others, feeling safe, secure, and loved is so nice.
     
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    I like both, but little spoon is better. As others have mentioned it just feels safe and comforting. Also I'm smaller than my boyfriend so we fit together more naturally that way.
     
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    For me it depends on physical size differences. If a guy is smaller than me I usually prefer to be big spoon, if they're bigger, little spoon. I've tried to be big spoon for a guy that was like half and foot taller and just physically bigger than me and it was awkward.

    Overall, I prefer little spoon. Makes me feel cozy.
     
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    Yup,this. Don't have a very strong preference either way. He's taller than me so it's a little weird staring at his neck if I'm the big spoon lol
     
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    I like both. If it's with a guy, then little spoon (though I don't mind being the big spoon) and if it's with a girl, then I'd prefer to be the big spoon, especially if she's smaller in build and shorter in height than I am. I like the "power trip" it gives. But with guys, I want them to be in control, hence preferring to be the little spoon :slight_smile:
     
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    I love cuddling regardless of the position that we're in. It's been hard when he wasn't very big on it.
     
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    Both are nice, but I lean more towards little spoon.
     
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    I like both.
     
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    None, to be honest. I get hot very easily and every time I have tried it over the years with a stuffed animal or small pillow (I have never had a partner), my arms always wind up in a weird position, and then I can't sleep or get comfortable. I'd much rather lay in close proximity, but not on top of each other. Maybe have some body parts touching like feet, legs, knees, or butts, but not holding each other. It sounds super cold and distant, but I can never get comfortable in that position.
     
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    With my bf: both. I'm only an inch taller than him so it's easy either way

    With my dog: big spoon
     
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    Can do either, but recently, little spoon...feeling my partner's naked body behind me, against mine, is very nice...
     
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    I've always been the big spoon, and I've always liked it. I think I'm to big to be the small spoon lol