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Do I need to be a muscular guy to be appealing to people?

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by MikeDenver, Aug 12, 2017.

  1. MikeDenver

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    I am very much skinny. I weigh around 110lbs with a height of 5'11". But I feel lack of confidence in front of everyone. I feel like people find me very less interesting. So do I need to be muscular to be appealing to people?
     
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    I think if you want to be muscular then you can be muscular, but if you're only doing it to impress someone or to fit in, I would say be yourself. The one thing I like about people the most is that they are themselves, not the person people want them to be. Hope this can help a little bit.
     
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    Like that poster above said, I don't think so - appealing is very subjective from person to person. Don't let anyone put you down about your body! It's impossible to fit every person's expectations, so just be you. If you do want to build muscle, you should do it for yourself, rather than to be appealing to others.
     
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    Your orientation says straight. Most straight women I know find super muscular guys to be very unattractive. It is only other straight men that form this opinion on women's preference and try to make it fact.

    But even for gay men, everyone has preferences. No two preferences are the same.
     
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    All I can say is just a repetition of the other posts: Preference is subjective. Proof? I, for one, happen to prefer skinnier guys as opposed to muscular guys. Either way, I believe, that when it comes to love, there is something much deeper than appearance, proving love can be blind. Just be yourself and people will take interest in that about you! Lot's of love!!! :slight_smile:
     
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    No, you do not. Not everyone is into muscular dudes, and this has nothing to due to sexual orientation. Hell, not every straight dude is into muscular women either.

    Everyone has different tastes. You can get bigger if you'd like, but don't do that just because you want to attract certain people. That's the wrong concept here.

    I personally go to the gym to not only get bigger, but to make my lifestyle more active. I do it for personal goals, not to get attention from other people (although, it does come with perks).
     
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    No, unless you truly want to look a certain way for yourself. I'm 6'1' and only weigh 107ish and have a small frame. I've always been underweight and I've loved being so. Some people will find it attractive while others won't - no big deal! Don't feel like you have to change your appearance just so someone will find you attractive.
     
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    Absolutely not. I'm 5'10 and have ranged between 110 and 140 through my teen year to present. It's extremely difficult for me to gain and keep weight. When single, had no issues getting partners, and.... well, had quite a few. I can also tell you that Gideon is also very enamored with my frame, yeah? I wouldn't worry about it. I work to keep some weight on my frame for my health, but for catching partners? Never.
     
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    Not being an asshole is the best way to get people to like you. Physical appearance only matters to really shallow people.
     
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    I mostly agree, but, it certainly helps to take care of your appearance somewhat. Like keep your hair clean, make sure it's not crazy in the morning (making it perfect is not that important), try and prevent as much acne as you can just because it's nice and shows that you respect yourself and your needs. Excersize enough to be healthy, but don't bother trying to do stuff specifically to make you buff if that isn't what you enjoy because being a happy confident person is much more attractive to potential partners than a little bit more muscle.
     
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    no, not necessarily. Personally, big muscles are a turn off for me. Being fit is fine, I just find big "body builder" muscles to be disturbing, the ones with bulging veins are twice as disturbing.
     
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    I personally find skinny guys attractive, you don't need to change a thing!