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Do I have a chance to have a husband and family, but in secret?

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  1. Warmwood

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    So i make a thread earlier, about being in closet and i am not willing to came out in my country and for my family, i plan to travel and work out in canda or uk or even in us or Australia, is there really chance for me to fulfill this dream, i never get in relationship ever, so my hopes is to find Mr.Right here or in another society platform,
    I am a nurse, gay man, and i need talking to someone and make some friend, this kind of help that i need.:peace:
     
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    I think it's impossible honestly. You want to hide your whole life, also trying hard your family will discover it at some point.
     
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    Warmwood.....I don't know where you live, but I do hope that someday you'll be able to travel to another country and stay there. Many places would be happy to have a qualified nurse move to their country, so it is possible! Make it your goal and work toward it...it can happen! :old_smile:
    .....David :gay_pride_flag:
     
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    I think that if i run for my chances for secret life and build something precious (Family) then really i dont care because there will be something that i may lose if cares at all .... About future i am talking
    So I don't know life sometimes sucks
     
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    I am waiting the day that happens, seriously we need to take some risk in this life to be able to live and love
     
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    My life plan is similar to yours. I think you can really fulfil this dream.
    I think your family will find out about your life. If they support you that will be wonderful, but if they do not, at least you will be safe.

    If there's anything I have learnt over the years it's that; We choose our family!
    Good luck @Warmwood
     
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    Good luck for you too, i hope someday find peace
     
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    Of the list of places that you said you were considering moving to I would say that Canada is the best choice. I think that if you do move someplace more accepting that you really do have a chance, as much as anyone else in such a place. As someone who was born and lived in the USA for most of her life and then fled to a more accepting place I would say that it should be your last option if an option at all. I hope that you do find a good place to move to and then find the relationship that you hope for.
     
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    Thank you very much, really i appreciate your advice, living in Canada is a dream for me, i look for the day that i ask an advice for which express entry programs that should i have to move in Canada
     
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    Life can work out! But the downside is, you'll miss your family NO MATTER WHAT. But you can start a new family :slight_smile:
     
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    yeah I'm pretty sure gay marriage is illegal in some states unfortunatley, and other times homophobia is strong is certain parts of the country as well, I think Canada is one of the most gay-friendly places out there
     
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    https://www.thecanadianencyclopedia.ca/en/article/same-sex-marriage-in-canada

    The person who I know best in Canada lives in Toronto. The way he spoke of it where he lived was about a thousand times more gay friendly than where I lived (California, USA).
     
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    I am frustrated of the idea, surly i will miss my family, and of course i love them, but for reality we will live just one time in this planet, so i am planning to live it in my own.