Not really looking for advice per-se, but more opening up a discussion on whether or not one should come out to their extended family. To be honest, it's pretty much inevitable that your parents would find out eventually unless you really try to hide it (I'm not out to parents and have mixed feelings about it but they'll have to know at some point). However, do you think that extended family need to know? By that, I mean aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents if they are still around. I do have a few relatives on my dad's side of the family that I am reasonably close to and they aren't religious nor do they strike me as homophobic. Probably wouldn't have an issue telling them. On the other hand, not at all close to much of my mum's family, definitely became more distanced from some of them as I've gotten older. A couple of aunts and uncles who I get on OK with but their kids (my cousins) are exceptionally annoying and seem to view me as a figure of ridicule, no doubt being gay would be another thing for them to laugh at and I have no idea on that side of the family's stance on LGBT people anyway. As for grandparents, no hope there, their religion is basically their life and given their ages, not worth potentially upsetting them... So, do you think that it is a good idea to tell extended family and do you feel that they need to know? I just don't really see the need to be honest, and I certainly don't want to be questioned by several people that I rarely see over something that isn't a big deal. I fear that they would make a big deal out of it.