I feel that my family and extended family, particularly, will never come around. Today I received in the mail a birthday gift from my grandparents. In the small box was a ceramic angel statue, a small jeweled mirror, a painting of a bluebird on wood... and two pairs of women's panties. There was a glittery, pink birthday card with a note inside from my grandparents saying how much they loved me and are proud of me. The box was addressed to: [Birth Name] (Alec) [Last Name] I felt hopeful when reading that they at least addressed the box with my chosen name in parentheses. But I know that is not for my sake, but for the people I live with. My mother at least now addresses my mail with nothing but my chosen name. But no one else does. The gift at once acknowledges my transition and firmly refutes it. My grandparents know I'm transitioning, because I publicly came out almost a year ago. Yet this gift is telling me, "Look at yourself in the mirror. You are a woman. Here is some women's underwear to prove it." Everything in the box was feminine. I don't mind the little statue or the painting (a bluebird with a pink background) because I don't believe in gendering items. But it is obvious that their intention was to "remind" me of who I "really" am. And it just hurts. The unacceptance never ends with my family. I'm just really discouraged right now, I guess... It's been almost a year and I've gotten nowhere with them.