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Did you change your look when you accepted yourself?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Izi, Aug 13, 2016.

  1. justin88

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    I can totally relate to this! I started my coming out process last year and ever since, I've become so much happier and much more outgoing. I feel much more confident than I used to and I've changed my hair style. (I love my hair so much now!) I used to not really care about how I looked but now I do my hair nicely and I choose my favorite clothes (which I've heard from others that I am very stylish.) And yes I guess that now my style is more "gay" (I am slightly more feminine) but who cares, I am so happy that I am glad that people would see me as "gay".

    Also, I am planning to dye my fringe a metallic blue and I really want to paint my nails!

    I'm glad that I can relate to you, and congratulations for being so confident to do what makes you happy! :slight_smile:
     
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    Omg pockets in men's jeans are heaven. I have real anger towards useless women's pocketa.
     
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    Me too! >.<
     
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    Well, actually yes. (probably a little after I started accepting myself).

    I think I've been depressed with it up until and through freshman year of high school. In my sophomore year I had a major crush on this boy, and he was my first actual crush (I'm pretty sure he's gay). I had the crush in March 2014, and that's when I started gelling my hair every day (still do) and caring more about my looks. I started coming out to my friends, but I did need some time adjusting to my new looks and actually making them work for me. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    When I was depressed I looked horrid. My clothes were bad and my hair was bad and my everything was bad. Damn middle school emo phase.
     
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    Maybe a bit. I used to wear only band shirts but that doesn't happen much anymore these days. Should do that again.

    My sneaker collection has increased quite a bit, if that counts :lol:
     
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    Cut my hair very short, wear colourful dresses. I'm making gradual changes.
     
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    I can relate! I've let my true personality shine, I've made my REAL friends, I know what hairstyle I want.... It's great!
     
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    Kind of. I started off much more androgynous. Then I went kind of skatery. Then more "townie/indie rock/tomboy." Then I started finding myself getting more femme. I went through this "all black/girly punk" phase and finally just broke out into long skirts and floral prints. I just couldn't help it. The more I got comfortable with my identity, the more I found I wanted more flowing, softer things and a softer look for myself.
     
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    I really fully accepted/figured out my gender like a couple weeks ago. I just changed my hairstyle a little over an hour ago (couldn't decide if I liked it or not, but now I think I like it), and I plan on wearing feminine clothes in private more often, and start wearing nail polish again. I also want to wear more androgynous clothes in public, but I don't know where to get any. Oh, also I want to dye my hair, but not sure what color.

    With my sexuality (about a year ago), I didn't really change much besides the ace ring.
     
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    I started caring ever-so-slightly more after accepting myself about making myself look nicer but the extent of that is basically now I actually care about wearing clothes that match. I've just never cared about clothes and hate spending mildly large amounts of money on clothes.
     
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    Nah. My clothing remained relatively the same; as old as I am now, I still use clothing that's from High School, hah! Now, though, if I had the cash; I'd probably buy new clothing to better suit my personality, but it's nothing serious.
     
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    Yeah, I did. For me coming out gave me such a burst of confidence. I started working out pretty heavily, started wearing more body conscious clothing. To be honest it went a bit too far, but it was great! I had always been the guy who was smart and funny and being able to walk into a room and have people attracted just to my looks was intoxicating. I remember thinking "this guy doesn't give a damn what I think"--but in a good way.:lol: After a while I sort of equalized but it was wonderful in its own way.
     
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    Yes, because I realised why I was so uncomfortable all the time with myself and what I could do to help it :slight_smile: I could never go back to the way that I used to "look" before, it felt very fake and strange...
     
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    Well I mean, if that's all you're wearing…

    After I came out at school, I started wearing a pride bracelet--at school, obviously, given my family's views on gay people--and I stopped dyeing by hair for a while once the dye that was already in grew out. Everything else is just my emo/preppy style that I've managed to make look damn good…relatively
     
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    I did change a lot, I cut my hair short and now I wear masculine clothing as well as a binder. I am barely recognisable haha cx
     
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    Not dramatically. I became a little freer, but really I'd already been subconsciously picking out things I could make androgynous, so besides cleansing myself of some hand-me-downs and getting some more solid-color t-shirts, binders, and looser jeans, nothing much is different.
     
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    yeah now that i realised i want to cut my hair short and have a more masculine style..i don't know why i want this i hope it's normal haha
    i never cared much about make up and clothes but you know i dressed more girly because that's what my friends did and considering i HAD to get a boyfriend...nahh... i'm so glad i'm not that lost person anymore:grin:
     
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    Nope, nothing really changed about me at all.

    Happy days :slight_smile:
     
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    I stopped trying to make myself wear feminine clothes and cut my hair. That was also when I came in contact with radical feminism.