So I'm not out. I have officially come to terms with my sexual orientation (bi) and am finally okay with it. Good steps, I deserve a cookie haha. But I'm still not ready to come out to my family. Whats funny is I'd be fine with coming out to my friends, just not my family yet for whatever reason. Ok thats the background for the story. So I wrote on my friend's facebook wall and notice a guy below my post. He said something funny, so I clicked on his profile just to see who he was. I start to "stalk" him haha and now I have a minor virtual crush on him... he seems really funny, cute, great personality. And to top it off, he is really cute. To top off the top off he is a college athlete like me. Yay. I really want to to talk to him. We only have one mutual friend. I'm sure we might know of a couple mutual people, but from what I can tell (and what facebook tells me) we only know one mutual person. Dangers of friending or messaging him? Bad idea/creepy? Would y'all be weirded out if someone who was still not out messaged you about it? Thanks guys
I certainly don't see any issue sending him a friend request. If he isn't interested, he'll just deny it - no big deal. But I do see three major hurdles. 1. You don't say if you live in the same area. 2. You're not out. 3. And despite all your "on top of that"s, you didn't include the big one. "On top of that, he's gay." Which, if all these things are as I'm guessing they are, you'll be crushing on a straight guy many miles away from the closet. Which very rarely ends well. Lex
oh i forgot that one. The best part of my day was when i went to the info tab and it said he was interested in men
OK, at least you've got that going for you. In that case, sure, send him the friend request. If he wants more info as to why you want to friend him, (metaphorically) shrug and say "I dunno. It was cool to see another college athlete who actually has a sense of humor/seems able to hold a good conversaton/whatever." See where it goes from there. Lex
OMG!!! You should really add him and say something cute when they ask you if you want to send a message with your friend request.