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Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Dodds, Mar 2, 2018.

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  1. CuriousG74

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    Hi again, you mention your kids make you happy, and of course you don't want to do anything which may affect them. But I'm interested in the fact you don't mention your husband makes you happy, or you even mention him at all.

    I'm sorry if I sound like I'm cross examining you for a court hearing . I'm living up to my name

    Do you ever feel like you're sneaking behind his back by coming on here ? How would you feel if he found out ? And to add a crazy spin, let's say he was secretly looking up other women because of the way things have been ?

    I understand if you don't want to answer

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    #41 CuriousG74, Mar 11, 2018
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    Wow that's stright to the point . At times he makes me happy. Yes i do feel bad that im coming on here behind his back but i only did so i could try and get support. I would be gutted id he found put without me telling him. If he was looking for other woman then good on him. If he was to leave me then good at least i would not have the guilt of ending things
     
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    Ah sorry for sounding demanding :slight_smile: I hope you're getting the support you want/need

    Take care
     
    #43 CuriousG74, Mar 12, 2018
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    Would you not feel more relieved it was out in the open ? You have nothing to be guilty about, you have different feelings which you are coming to grips with. But you also have to consider both yours and his happiness, you are condemning both of you to misery the longer you leave it. And he may take it worse the longer you don't tell him.

    Keep us posted
     
    #44 CuriousG74, Mar 13, 2018
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    Thanks for the advise but i know myslef and i know im not ready to tell him im still struggling wit depression and anxiety and its not all related to this situation so i think ive got to work on this first
     
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    Ive recently started having feelings for a friend she's stright and doesmt know I'm gay its not feelings of just lust but just feel so happy when I'm wit her
     
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    Without judging you, and forgiving any ignorance, how do you know you are gay ? Do you just feel happier when with this person ? or are you just unhappy with your husband and this person makes you happy ?
     
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    I can see myslef having a realonship wit her. Ive never turely been into men just went with it so i fitted in wit every1. As a teenager when all my friends started getting boyfriends i wasn't interested in boys so i think i allways have been
     
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    I need to feel love when my husbsnd hugs me i feel nothing when she hugs me i feel alive and so happy even though its only a 5 second friends hug i love it
     
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    That feeing is amazing isn't it.
     
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    Completely understand this - loving being in another person's company. The desire to touch can spring from that special connection.
     
    #51 Peterpangirl, Mar 18, 2018
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    Is it normal to want her attention even if she has no idea how i feel or im gay. I normally see her twice a week amd when i dont its horrible.
     
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    And the time you spend with your husband ? Is this reversed ? With him all the time and it's horrible :slight_smile: (Just kidding)
     
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    Its not the same if I'm honest we r are more house mates then man and wife. He knows i have depression and anxiety so he doesn't push things at the min
     
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    :frowning2: Things can't be good for him either ?
     
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    There not but he just says he understands im depressed and yes i do feel bad for him but im not in a place where I'm ready to tell him the truth
     
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    Sure. Liking someone is intoxicating, I mean sure if they like you back it's better but the feeling of wanting to be around them is there regardless of what they know.
     
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    It can be overwhelming at times and i find myself more and more wanting to see her but as i say i only see her twice a week :frowning2:
     
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    Well in an idea situation you don't really want to see her more even though you want to because it can make you just fall harder and harder.
     
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    Does any1 else who is in a relationship with the wrong person dream of having sex wit sum1 else. Recently all i can think of is sex but not wit my husband:frowning2:
     
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