I'm a 17 year old guy who will be turning 18 this month and for the past couple months I've been confused about my sexuality. I'm not sure what my sexuality is at all. Lemme explain. So I starting questioning my sexuality because I've been turned on by dicks before, like videos of guys masturbating and stuff. But that's the only thing about guys that has ever turned me on, nothing else. Although I've been turned on by dicks I haven't been turned on by just pussy. However I've been turned on by videos of girls shaking their asses and the thought of a girl grinding on me, I just haven't been turned on by just vaginas and even boobs, I mean I admire them, but they actually don't get me aroused like other things would. I would also like to add in that I only watch and masturbate to straight porn and I've never had a gay fantasy, the thought of gay sex is a complete turn off for me. I'm only aroused by seeing a man and women having sex or thinking of me having sex with a woman. I'm also only into females when it comes to relationships, like I could never be in a relationship with a man. Last thing I would like to add is that I rarely ever get turned on by dicks, the last time I did was like 2 years ago, so it's not like everyday I'm looking up solo male videos, I would just get curious sometimes before and look it up. So what would you guys consider my sexuality to be?
From what you've said your probably straight. From everything I read when figuring things out for myself, porn is a horrible indicator of sexuality. You have a penis, you know what it feels like when it's stimulated, so you get turned on by watching a guy masturbate, just because you know how good that feels. If your still questioning ask yourself this: do I find guys atrractive or get turned on by them when they aren't involved in porn? Do you see random guys at the store or out on the street and think "he's cute" or "he's hot." Do you get turned on by looking at attractive guys? Or by thinking about being with them in a romantic or secual manner? Could you see yourself dating a man? making out with him? Or having sex? If you answered no to these, and by your first post you probably did, then yours likely straight.
Yeah I've never seen a guy in the street and would think about him sexually, but idk something is still telling me I'm not exactly straight. Like form the ages of 12-15 I was turned on by dicks and masturbation videos more than anything on the female body, but just that. It wasn't until like 2 years ago when I lost interest in watching masturbation videos and it wasn't until last year when I started fully becoming aroused by the female form, before then it wouldn't really happen much. But then again, it wasn't like everyday I was searching up dicks, it would happen every once in a while, I just don't know.
In the end your the only person who can really figure this kind of stuff out for yourself. No one, not here or anywhere, can tell you who you are. Believe me, I wish it was different. It would have been so convenient to be able to just be told "yup, your Bi, go enjoy your life" but that's not how it works, you have to figure it out yourself. If you want my opinion I still think you sound straight. It sounds like except for those videos you've never felt anything for other men. Seeing as you were 12-15 at the time. That's a weird time in everyone's life, when your just figuring out how your body works and experimenting to figure out what gets it going. I'd just chock it up to hormones and leave it at that, especially if you don't feel aroused by that stuff anymore. Like I said in the first post, you have a penis, you know what it feels like when you masturbate, so when you see a guy in a video do it, it's easy to imagine that is you, and you get turned on because you know that feels good. This is just my interpretation however, it's your life and your sexuality, and in the end Its you who gets to make the final call and decide who and what you are.
Thank you, I guess I'll just have to give my mind a break on this one and over time I'll figure it out. Have a nice day
Hey James3499, Sexuality is, most straight-forwardly, about your romantic and sexual attractions. If you care to, check out these YouTube videos that discuss romantic and sexual attractions. Granted they are focused on bisexuality, but they can also give you some perspective if you are actually straight or homosexual. Just my 2cents.
